07-08-2020, 04:31 PM
(07-08-2020, 12:48 PM)Diana Wrote:(07-08-2020, 12:34 PM)TheAmbiguousSod Wrote:(07-08-2020, 11:37 AM)Diana Wrote:I am sorry, I didn’t mean that in any condescending way. I was trying to put across how I think that if we are honest with ourselves in the way of what we want and need, it may not be a time that we are meant to use in opening the heart and so comparing what we think we should be doing with what we want to be doing can bring tension.(07-08-2020, 10:55 AM)TheAmbiguousSod Wrote: My only advise would be to get honest with yourself.
In my opinion, this is the key to any sort of conscious evolution. Self-honesty is not simple, as we may all have some subconscious fragmentation, ingrained belief systems or denial based on survival. But if we are OPEN to self-honesty, and the acceptance of our own possible blockages to that end, the barriers become less rigid and are more malleable to change.
This is why I think focus on self is so important. And I don't think it is as simple as changing an attitude (or forcing an attitude change). There has to be a fundamental widening of awareness, and the only way I have found to widen awareness is to be open to change. Stagnant waters become toxic, as it has been said.
We dig our heels in sometimes, and that is a survival instinct when our world is threatened. It's an important one, and sets boundaries which help us navigate through difficult times or situations, by slowing down or stopping input and outside pressures. But a good idea is to then take a second look at things. Now that you have stopped the "movie," and you feel safer, you can, from this vantage point, take a fresh look at things. Be the observer. Step outside of self and consider self along with all the other elements involved.
When I think I should be doing something it makes me think I am incorrect and so I was just suggesting that by being honest with ourselves and our intentions and desires, we can evaluate if forcing a certain trait is going to do us any good.
I’m sorry if the way I have come across seems like I am saying anything is easy. It is the hardest thing to do to be honest with ourselves and I don’t mean to take away from that in the slightest.
I in no way meant to criticize what you had said. I was agreeing with your statement about self-honesty and expanding on it. I will take responsibility for not being clear. I find this is often the case here, that my words are misinterpreted, and I continue to hone this communication skill.
No I’m so sorry. I think it was myself judging myself really. By seeing the sentence quoted I realised that I might have come across like I was saying it was easy when I never intended to do so. We’re all learning constantly, thanks for being understanding and please know I in no way see anything in your words that comes across hostile or as if you were disagreeing. When I responded I read again and it was as if I was somewhere else entirely.