03-30-2022, 12:12 PM
I notice that I am most judgmental (to self and others), or reactionary, or triggered when something hits a nerve ... when something "hits" close to home. Perhaps, it's whatever I perceive challenges a facet of my self-identity.
Like silly describes, if someone says something to me that disturbs my self-identity (e.g., "You're selfish), I might react/judge (e.g., "Nu-uh, you are.")
Likewise, when I see something in myself that disturbs my self-identity, I might do the same: be reactive, defensive.
As I write this, I think judgment might be related to fear -- at least within me. For instance, Am I afraid I truly am selfish, and must defend against an accusation of such?
But when I see/accept that I am selfish/generous, mean/loving, and all of the infinite attributes and energies flowing amidst us, I might be less likely to judge self/other.
Like silly describes, if someone says something to me that disturbs my self-identity (e.g., "You're selfish), I might react/judge (e.g., "Nu-uh, you are.")
Likewise, when I see something in myself that disturbs my self-identity, I might do the same: be reactive, defensive. As I write this, I think judgment might be related to fear -- at least within me. For instance, Am I afraid I truly am selfish, and must defend against an accusation of such?
But when I see/accept that I am selfish/generous, mean/loving, and all of the infinite attributes and energies flowing amidst us, I might be less likely to judge self/other.
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