The Narcissist/Submissivity Thread (inb4 cognitive dissonance)

[meadow-foreigner]

Narcissism (orange-ray pattern) is a consequence of social conditioning (orange/yellow rays). Its causes are social (yellow-ray). It is a pattern.

Straight to the point: narcissists seek gains in each and every relationship they have because they believe every gain comes from external sources of validation or providence.

Oftentimes it's not possible to starve a narcissistic structure (i.e.: household); however, it is possible to predict their behavior, rendering their tactics and salads useless.

To every narcissist, love is conditional, and every relationship transactional.

They have been conditioned to believe that fear precedes any gain, and thus they project its expectation to other-Selves: as long as [an]other Self/Group fears them, the narcissist feels safe and/or loved, belonging, and working for a cause deemed valuable.

Thus, the narcissist rationalizes every relationship on zero-sum terms: "to exist a gain, there has to exist a loss".

The narcissist, consequently, is indebted to their own limiting beliefs, and tends to worship greater narcissists ー usually suppliers of resources ー while draining lesser narcissists seeking their praise: submissive people.

Every narcissist, in a masked crying wojak manner, feels superior to their prey. They engage in micro-aggressions, covertly or overtly, to make their target believe they are the dominant part, that is, the supplier part, in a relationship.

And, because everyone has demands, everyone is vulnerable to narcissistic manipulation.

There are two main variants of narcissistic behavior:

The external-oriented narcissist,
and the internal-oriented narcissist:

▪The former seeks to rationalise their lacks by believing that the one true change can only come from an external source of power: God, Government, Spirituality, money, affection, intercourses, family. When confronted with basic Buddhism, they spill some half-baked Marxism to attempt to justify their means of believing what they do.

▪The latter seeks to rationalise their lacks by believing that the one true change can only come from an internal source of power: their Self. When confronted with basic economics, they spill some half-baked Marxism to attempt to justify their means of believing what they do.

Other manipulations include proxying, drama-instilling, hooking, and blackmail.

▪Proxying: because they lack acceptance of things as they are, they tend to play with pronouns and make-believe stories, in attempts to guess a person's reasoning. Triangulation and objectification of affection or love are very common.

▪Drama-instilling: because they lack balance, they seek positive reinforcement through negativity. Fallacies such as the lesser/necessary evil, separation-inducing rhetoric, tragedy fabrication and other similar manipulations are oftentimes used to gain resources from their counterparts.

▪Hooking: the narcissist offers a bait to catch anyone's attention, only to then drain their energy, usually keeping crumbles as their leeches' food.

▪Blackmail: the narcissist attempts to dissuade anyone from distancing from them throughout employment of emotional blabber, rationalization rethorics and heterodox ambivalent demonstrations of Self-change, to keep their targets dependant and/or submissive to the narcissist.

Every narcissist sees the world through their orange-tinged lenses. To them, any living being is merely a supplier of satisfaction, and there is no true fulfillment in life except for the continuous attainment of that false pleasure, usually erotic, but oftentimes also egotistical.

Every relationship with a narcissist is hierarchical, with a dominant/submissive dialectic, or drainer and drained.

Finally, there are healthy alternatives to living, and freeing beliefs to rewire a fundamentally narcissistic subjectivity.

Write down your experiences with narcissism, and share them with others.

Knowledge protects more than a triggerable button.