07-05-2021, 09:23 PM
You bring about an interesting subject. The goal and problem of knowing the rules is that it will change your decision making.
1. There is a tendency to view choices through the lense of polarity. This can be helpful and harmful IMO. There can be a kind of apathy developed once you know the rules that can be a hurdle to overcome. Your second example is close to this kind of apathy.
There is also a tendency to feel like you are faking it. People feel guilty to be motivated by a desire to graduate. This is actually addressed by Hatonn in the early sessions and the answer is basically fake it till you make it. It is normal to be hesitant or feel like you have impostor syndrome, but by making service to others a habit you eventually become more and more truly service to others polarized, and the desire to graduate becomes less of a motivating factor.
2. If you know the chess board then you start to see polarization in interactions. If you are trying to post hoc rationalize your decisions into being positive or STO, you are doing it wrong. If you do something bad or good you should recognize the actions you took, accept them, forgive yourself if polarizing STO, and forgive anyone else involved if needed. Then examine your own reactions and feelings and how those served or did not serve as you would like to, and identify where you can improve.
3. Depends. I have sought plenty of information, healing, and other knowledge to help those I care about. I have also used plenty of knowledge, healing, and information that I sought for myself or to satisfy my own desires to help those I care about. While most here desire to serve others, the development of the self cannot be neglected, as this is what enables the service to other selves.
1. There is a tendency to view choices through the lense of polarity. This can be helpful and harmful IMO. There can be a kind of apathy developed once you know the rules that can be a hurdle to overcome. Your second example is close to this kind of apathy.
There is also a tendency to feel like you are faking it. People feel guilty to be motivated by a desire to graduate. This is actually addressed by Hatonn in the early sessions and the answer is basically fake it till you make it. It is normal to be hesitant or feel like you have impostor syndrome, but by making service to others a habit you eventually become more and more truly service to others polarized, and the desire to graduate becomes less of a motivating factor.
2. If you know the chess board then you start to see polarization in interactions. If you are trying to post hoc rationalize your decisions into being positive or STO, you are doing it wrong. If you do something bad or good you should recognize the actions you took, accept them, forgive yourself if polarizing STO, and forgive anyone else involved if needed. Then examine your own reactions and feelings and how those served or did not serve as you would like to, and identify where you can improve.
3. Depends. I have sought plenty of information, healing, and other knowledge to help those I care about. I have also used plenty of knowledge, healing, and information that I sought for myself or to satisfy my own desires to help those I care about. While most here desire to serve others, the development of the self cannot be neglected, as this is what enables the service to other selves.
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