Other-selves and projection

[Diana]

Another question though, which may be worth considering, you said you like making music alone and you like jamming with your brother, but do you enjoy music together when you aren't just jamming or do you have a lot of different opinions?

Sometimes creative differences are very difficult to reconcile and it's almost impossible to get any forward momentum if efforts can't be unified.

Or, sometimes, you just gotta have fun! Your brother might actually find more ability to move forward if he can lighten up a bit and focus on the enjoyment of creation rather than the future idea of success.

The above from Aion I think is significant. For me, working alone is my best option, and when I work I am all in 100%. When I play, I go all in, 100%. This is my personality type, or perhaps more accurately, the optimal way I act in this world based on the dynamics of my life and its environs. It's not for everyone. I have worked with others in photo shoots for example, and my driven nature does not blend well with others who are more laid back.

Working as a team can mean different things, As an illustrator, I have worked with publishing companies and a team there—editors, project managers, proofers, etc. We worked as a team producing a book, but I, as the creator of the art, did my core work alone.

I have a friend who is musically talented. He composes music and plays more than one instrument. His brother can play some instruments, but is more technically talented. So my friend might come up with a melody, and his brother takes that (and has done), and produces electronic music. So they collaborate, but separately for part of the process doing what they do best. But I have also seen them play together in an open mic night, having fun.

My point is that rather than force the situation into one circumstance, it might be worth exploring a way that doesn't infringe on each others' tendencies and optimal processes, but rather works with them harmonically in another way. There have been famous bands that have split up in the past because the members felt held back creatively. So this is something else I would consider. And that does not mean you can't jam and play together.