Other-selves and projection

[Glow]

Lazy is sort of a shame word, expressing shame, or encouraging one to feel shame.

I honestly never thought of that! Thankyou for bringing it to my attention Glow. Sorry if I made anyone feel uncomfortable by using that word.

Personally, one of my favourite past-times is lazing about, so I've never had any qualms calling myself lazy (at times). But yes, people often use the word in derogatory ways. Yet I have found that when I am biased towards laziness, I can find the most ingenious ways to be more efficient or streamline the systems in my life. I guess I was projecting my own propensity to try to see the virtue in all things... and maybe came across as too harsh as a result. 

Oh I didn't at all take your comment that way. My mother-inlaw uses it your way "to laze about" and its a sweet non-shaming way to use it but by definition is a derogatory term.

from oxford dictionary
https://languages.oup.com/google-dictionary-en/

la·zy/ˈlāzē/

adjective
unwilling to work or use energy.
"he was too lazy to cook"
Similar:
idle, indolent, slothful, work-shy, shiftless, loafing, inactive,

The one person I have had catalyst with this word from is heavily shame ridden to the point he cannot be still/non productive. It is to the point of self abuse, and he admits it, work, work, work from the time they wake up to go to sleep, or they feel guilty.

Once or twice when he has been taking self care time he has referred to "us" as being lazy.

I let it slide for a while but like you were saying earlier. One can do a lot of inner work, when not physically productive, and that is work so no one gets to call me lazy.

I can't force someone to not shame themselves but no one has my consent to try to implant shame in my subconscious. I worked way to hard to get through that, I am not going back.