Other-selves and projection

[Louisabell]

The funny thing about projection, is that to first judge someone else as projecting, we must first project onto them.

In other words, why exactly do you have a problem with your brother perceiving you as lazy in music? People judge, it's what they do, and it's your brother's business what he perceives, just as it is your business what you perceive.

So, if it was me in your shoes and I wanted to help the communication, I would ask the question, "where am I lazy in music creation?". We all have parts of ourselves that are lazy, and parts that are hardworking. Life is always a compromise. For example, someone could appear very lazy on the outside, but be very hardworking in their meditative practice.

We are all things. To acknowledge the laziness within, to accept it, to honor it, that is positive polarisation. And it does not mean you have to change your behaviour at all! But it can validate your brother's experience, and might help mend the divide.

But of course I don't know the whole story, so take what I say with a grain of salt.