09-20-2020, 09:21 PM
Our relationship is going much smoother than what it might look like from what I described. It is not toxic and I see no benefits from distance, on the contrary. Those things that needs attention and work are well balanced by many virtues and like I said we learn so much from each others. We are complementary at about 90 degrees. For example, decades ago I was a master at procrastination. I have since then become much more balanced on this (not there yet but...). I learned to be able to say no as well from this teach/learner. Stuff like that. Anyway, the kind of action/reaction I described happens maybe once a week and are really tiny things that I suspect most people would not bother to try to correct. Our relationship is already pretty authentic. But after so many years interacting, I believe we are ready for even more authenticity. We are ready for me to stop these tiny lies and see what that leads us. Not on day one of course, this stoppage will be progressive. Because like I said, the biggest issue for this work is the lack of acceptance of criticism. So we'll start there. Yes to get to the authenticity we have at the moment with this issue of criticism was challenging but there was no intention on moving on that front before now. And I have always respected/accepted that even if I felt the need to resort to tiny defensive lying. Thank you for sharing your opinions. It is always welcomed!