Lets remember what love is?

[Diana]

I could be so wrong Sunclarity,  but I think when we are young and full of spirit, we have a certain vision of life and then it is true , what ever we have felt as good or wonderful, we really want the other to experience it too,  so you may tend to send love and at the same time push that person to do certaint things in a certain way, and there, yes,  I think perhaps love, even unconditional at the initial stage may infringe on the other self with pressure or as you write,  with obligation...

I am only addressing one of the things you mentioned.

I have the feeling and the impression that as you get older,  you naturally become much more respectful of the space of each self because your own space has been infringed quite a few times, so your compassion grows for any other self.

Just my little take.  As Dtris said, much food for thoughts...

be well !!  

Hum. We being young and inexperienced does seem a reason, but, if I may, the way I see it, age is not the issue. We have children that are incredibly respective and elders that are incredibly intrusive. In other words, one's inner and outer state might be influenced by age, but not necessarily.

It isn't age at issue, it is experience, which coincides with age. Although entities bring into this life biases from other existences, one starts out in this reality on square one so to speak, gathering a new set of experiences through catalyst. This is reflected in the archetype study according to Ra.

It is true that some entities come into this world with a deeper awakened awareness. But such entities will lack experience—putting this awareness to use in the present incarnation. As catalyst is experienced, the entity will respond not just with the biases previously brought forward from other incarnations, but with the survival instinct, body challenges, societal and cultural influences, and so on, inherent in the 3D experience. This is where long experience will count, because it takes time and experience to sort out the miasma of input which this reality crowds us with.

This is likely why indigenous cultures respect the elders. They have cultivated processing catalyst for a long time, and gained wisdom to be offered.

It's not to say your opinion isn't true, it is in a way, but there is something more fundamental at play. Will. Age is but an illusory form of will. Will decides whether one is to be confused or enlightened, cruel or kind. That will is at will's control at all times, so it's, in a sense, a conscious choice.

This is an issue of control vs. acceptance.

The mind is very complex. Experience is multi-faceted. It isn't so linear or one-dimensional as: I will be kind, not cruel. There is self-honesty and authenticity and self-knowledge, that must ideally be accessed before understanding how we act in the world. A person who has had a hard life growing up may want to be kind, but that kindness may be like a frozen sheet of water over a lake of confused anger or sadness.

There is nothing wrong with the desire to be kind. But, my opinion is that kindness, or cruelty, or whatever is at play will naturally flow from a person regardless of whatever parameters are imposed on the will. This is why (I think) the most important thing to do is work on self. Self knowledge, through self-honesty and pursuing conscious evolution—whatever that may be—according to that self-knowledge, is key. This is accepting self. Acceptance is unlikely if judgments or demands are made upon self (be kind; don't be cruel). From self-knowledge, self-accountability, self-responsibility, (whatever the path), will flow a will more in alignment with the true self.