06-17-2020, 07:17 PM
Turning the other cheek can be good advice. Standing up for yourself is also good advice. The when's and why's are what is important.
When you are caught in a situation and you are becoming angry, upset, feel attacked, confrontational, defensive, you must first be aware of those feelings in the moment. Sometimes you will feel defensive or confrontational after someone makes a valid criticism of your behavior. If you "stand up for yourself" then you are ignoring that they have a valid point because that point damaged your ego. So turning the other cheek, and accepting the criticism would be more beneficial.
If someone is insulting, pushing, or hitting you or someone else and will not stop, then standing up for yourself is right. However sometimes if you become aggressive it escalates the situation. So then it helps to be able to stand up without fighting, to disagree without arguing. This can be very difficult.
My advice for the average human (of which I am one and I am doing my best to follow this).
1) Be aware of your own reactions in the moment.
2) Remind yourself that the others are the creator, as are you.
3) Allow spontaneous expression of whatever you are feeling as long as it does not harm others.
4) Temper any expression with love and understanding.
Afterwards when you are by yourself review your actions and ask if you did ok or not. By reviewing and identifying where you might have fallen short you start creating a bias to be aware of those moments in the future. Be prepared to upset people when you start expressing yourself truthfully. Unless you say something hurtful, do not apologize. As you temper your expressions with love and understanding you will become less likely to upset people as you will be aware of their emotions and able to blend with them.
Last advice is that this is a process and everyone will need lots of time to get good at it. We certainly cannot complete it in one life and we can only strive to do better each day.
PS. Just because you cannot consciously communicate with your higher self does not mean that communication doesn't occur on other levels. Pay attention to dreams and intuition and you might start to get the messages, even if you can't hear any words.
When you are caught in a situation and you are becoming angry, upset, feel attacked, confrontational, defensive, you must first be aware of those feelings in the moment. Sometimes you will feel defensive or confrontational after someone makes a valid criticism of your behavior. If you "stand up for yourself" then you are ignoring that they have a valid point because that point damaged your ego. So turning the other cheek, and accepting the criticism would be more beneficial.
If someone is insulting, pushing, or hitting you or someone else and will not stop, then standing up for yourself is right. However sometimes if you become aggressive it escalates the situation. So then it helps to be able to stand up without fighting, to disagree without arguing. This can be very difficult.
My advice for the average human (of which I am one and I am doing my best to follow this).
1) Be aware of your own reactions in the moment.
2) Remind yourself that the others are the creator, as are you.
3) Allow spontaneous expression of whatever you are feeling as long as it does not harm others.
4) Temper any expression with love and understanding.
Afterwards when you are by yourself review your actions and ask if you did ok or not. By reviewing and identifying where you might have fallen short you start creating a bias to be aware of those moments in the future. Be prepared to upset people when you start expressing yourself truthfully. Unless you say something hurtful, do not apologize. As you temper your expressions with love and understanding you will become less likely to upset people as you will be aware of their emotions and able to blend with them.
Last advice is that this is a process and everyone will need lots of time to get good at it. We certainly cannot complete it in one life and we can only strive to do better each day.
PS. Just because you cannot consciously communicate with your higher self does not mean that communication doesn't occur on other levels. Pay attention to dreams and intuition and you might start to get the messages, even if you can't hear any words.
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