Lets remember what love is?

[Sunclarity]

I could be so wrong Sunclarity,  but I think when we are young and full of spirit, we have a certain vision of life and then it is true , what ever we have felt as good or wonderful, we really want the other to experience it too,  so you may tend to send love and at the same time push that person to do certaint things in a certain way, and there, yes,  I think perhaps love, even unconditional at the initial stage may infringe on the other self with pressure or as you write,  with obligation...

I am only addressing one of the things you mentioned.

I have the feeling and the impression that as you get older,  you naturally become much more respectful of the space of each self because your own space has been infringed quite a few times, so your compassion grows for any other self.

Just my little take.  As Dtris said, much food for thoughts...

be well !!  

Hum. We being young and inexperienced does seem a reason, but, if I may, the way I see it, age is not the issue. We have children that are incredibly respective and elders that are incredibly intrusive. In other words, one's inner and outer state might be influenced by age, but not necessarily.

It's not to say your opinion isn't true, it is in a way, but there is something more fundamental at play. Will. Age is but an illusory form of will. Will decides whether one is to be confused or enlightened, cruel or kind. That will is at will's control at all times, so it's, in a sense, a conscious choice.

We decide to love as hatred and belittlement because we want to. I know it's easy to wish that this wasn't the case. That we are victims because we don't control our will. But that, if said, will be just a pretending game. Creation behaves the same, in all levels, in all planes, in all ways.

That is to say, we are always limitless and always under our control. It can seem rather ironic, especially to you dear Flo, since you know of my struggles, but, we being limitless doesn't mean we don't get confused, and that's why you and I can be all-powerful and yet appear powerless.

It doesn't mean we are powerless though. The illusion is always an illusion. I'm sorry if I answered in case you didn't want me to and of course, you may reply and we can further learn about this together. In either way, thank you. Be well as well.