A story I didn't want to share.

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IMO - THIS IS A REALLY REALLY IMPORTANT OBSERVATION

"This place should be a loving place"
Well, it would be cool, if it was a loving place, where everybody can receive deep healing.
But thats just not what it is.

It is a loose community of seekers, thats it.
You have to realize, many people here are very young, many people are at the beginning of their conscious spiritual journey and even more are just about to begin their healing journey.
Sure, there are also some people who are maybe already further on their spiritual and healing path, but thats a minority.

That means, that many people here are sometimes heavily struggling, have considerable emotional and mental issues and, quite logically, not the most refined spiritual understanding.

And the community is made up of all these individuals.

To expect them to be loving and compassionate is just unrealistic.
To expect a clear and deep rooted understanding of spiritual material is also unrealistic, how could you expect this from somebody just starting the journey?

Its more of a place where people share their problems, their difficulties and sometimes their success experiences and insights. And everybody hopes someone else might have the missing puzzle peace.

What you expect is a therapeutic setting, and that is something completely different!
I believe thats a crucial thing to understand!

In a therapeutic setting, the roles a very clear:
The therapist is completely in service for the client.
Even if the therapist is facing issues of his own, he/she is zrying to keep them out of the way and focus completely on the client.
In a therapy, the client is (hopefully) able to build trust and establish a reliable relationship that makes healing possible!

Another difference is, a good therapist has already healed his/her own trauma. because of that he/she has a real understanding of the clients situation, how it was created in the first place and how to heal it.
You simply cannot expect this from a random forum member!
Finding and healing one's trauma is a a very long process which usually takes at least one or two decades.
Its simply unrealistic to expect from someone just starting healing work to give really helpful advice!

It is in my opinion really important to understand this!
Because therapy is what many people would need!!!
As long as people believe getting advice in a forum is all that is needed, the will never take the step and start a therapy!
And the means to help and heal on an internet forum are definetely extremely limited!

Another important thing is experience.
You might notice that we can only type words here.
That is not the medium to really convey an experience.
So you have a maybe poorly worded advice and then somebody who may understand it completely wrong.
In a therapy, you can work with experience.
And you can work with touch, you can hold someone!

THAT is what is needed!

That doesnt mean we shouldnt try! Many people here, including myself, spend massive amounts of time to really try and help, support, comfort, to the best of their ability.
But one should be aware of the limitations and the fact that I CANNOT REPLACE THERAPY!

You might further notice, many people come here with severe problems. Quite a few obviously have critical mental conditions and/or emotional problems.
Sometimes its clearly visible, sometimes it takes some time until it shows, and there are quite a few where its healthy to assume, although not (yet) visible.

I guess it accounts to your lack of experience in this field, but its just not the way such "disorders" arise!
You dont just go to a forum, and even if some s*** would happen there, become autistic, schizophrenic, psychotic or whatever.

All those conditions have in common that they are an attempt to defend against unbearable emotions that are already IN the person in question.
Sometimes the conditions visibly manifest at a certain age, when a certain level of outer safety would permit those emotions to arise.
Sometimes a relationship breakup brings those emotions to the surface.
For many people its weed consumption, which has a huge potential to open door to the subconscious and awaken emotions people are not ready for.
Whatever the trigger is, its just the trigger, it is not the cause!

I am not saying this to defend anybody, i am saying this because you want to help.
And if you want to help. you should find out what the origin is.
I guess you know what i mean.

Mental conditions such as the ones mentioned, severe emotional problems have very deep roots.
The roots always and with almost no exceptions trace back to a very very early age and very often to the beginning of the incarnation.
You might not believe this.
I suggest you find out yourself.
If you do enough spiritual and healing work, i guarantee 100% you will come to the exact same conclusion!
There is not one single person on this planet who is spiritually evolved and doesnt share this view, not to my awareness!

But as i said, dont take my word for it, find out yourself!,

THE WISEST THING I HAVE READ ON B4 !!



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