A story I didn't want to share.

[EvolvingPhoenix]

I am not completely sure about it, but i also strongly suspect it was CA!

But even if it wasnt fake, then it clearly displayed all the qualities that the forum members have been blamed for!
I strongly believe everybody here is doing his/her best to help to the best of one's ability!
There is nothing more that can be done!

I dont think anybody here should have guilty conscience about maybe not having done done enough or not good enough!

In my opinion, CA's basic problem was the complete unwillingness to take responsibility for his life, and the same goes for One of Love!
All help is completely useless, if somebody doesnt take responsibility and makes the decisions necessary.

Its everybody's free will to not take advice, to not take responsibility, to go on with self-destruction, and there is nothing that can be done unless the person in question decides for a better path!

Learned that the hard way.

CA, rock bottom is wherever you decide it is. Once you hit it, you will desperately work to change yourself for the better because you're tired of living in such a way. Trust me, taking responsibility, while painful and fraught with uncertainty, is worth it. I say that, even as I sit here suffering the pain of my friendship breakup wounds being newly reopened. Like, as toxic as this friend was, I have to take responsibility for what I put out... and had reflected back at me.

It's all okay though because I'm willing and able to take responsibility and love myself. I even had to admit that if I were willing to love myself and accept the GOOD I want from this person, I'd probably be getting it, but some piece of me remains attached to SEPARATION and judgement, so my judgement gets reflected back and I stay miserable. But my willingness to take responsibility for this is the first step to healing it, and believe me, I want it healed!

What about you? Are you happy as you are living right now? If not, then what about your attitude can you change to make things better? Don't judge yourself for it. LOVE YOURSELF. FORGIVE YOURSELF. And get excited about the new life you're creating for yourself.

Huh, you know what? I just got the pick-me-up I needed after facing my friendship breakup again. How about that?