Win/Losing and Lose/Winning

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Following up on the original post - it may be useful to remain mindful of which side of the Love/Winlose - Winlose/Love polarity we're playing out at any given time, as we go through our day.  We all know, I think, how Love feels, and how irritating  Winlose/Losewin feels. And if we realize that even Win carries Lose with it, the choice becomes even clearer.

But then catalyst comes up.  People's actions will often pull us strongly towards Winlose/Losewin.  Someone makes an antagonizing move and our ego leaps up to respond in kind, even if only with anger and resentment -- but even if we don't aggress, we're still in the conflict-ridden mind-space.  

Egos are very sensitive to perceived aggression, and don't understand Love.  Egos enjoy getting sucked into conflict and try to gain the upper hand.  Which is also the lower hand, unfortunately (Win/Lose = Lose/Win)  but egos don't get that.  They're part of social animal consciousness, steeped in hierarchy, social status and survival needs.  So if we want to be free, this is where Spirit needs to step in and gently redirect us back toward the path of harmony - even with those who would choose to attempt to suck us into their ego-games.  Especially with them.

Hence, love thy enemies.  Because then, as Laozi apparently realized, you will have no enemies.

Again more wisdom. I guess I'm just not ready to let go of this mode of being, which I feel to be so deeply a part of me. I find I simply cannot sit on the mountain and watch. Do wanderers not come here to affect change? How can you simply watch? Does no part of your being call you to fight or find elation in the battle? Do you not want to be a hero? Do you not want to look back on your life and laugh and laugh at the dynamic happenings?

These are questions which I often contemplate. Jesus fought, he did not sit under a tree drinking vinegar. He never harmed anyone (except that kid he petrified...), but he fought nonetheless. And what of Krishna? The epics describe him counselling Arjuna and urging him towards battle, lest the kingdom fall to wickedness and chaos. "Do thou fight for the sake of fighting". If you can stand up for something, then you should.

What does it mean to follow your deepest path, as Ra alludes to Jesus not doing by accepting martyrdom? I believe it means to become involved and affect change to the greatest extent that you can. If Jesus had accepted the Honour/Duty/Privilege of governing others, as Krishna had done, perhaps this whole world would now be a better place.

We are all here for different things. No harm wanting or needing adversarial contact. We all can help in different ways. My way is to always see the driving force of a persons patterns and distortions. This takes me out of the win/lose:lose/win streak Stranger described and I’m happiest out of that place.

If I Have to deal with conflict I approach it the same way. I see them deeply, I let them know I see their inner goodness, I show them my own, we find common ground and resolve things. I want us both to win so then I cannot set anyone up as an advisary. I cannot push anyone towards the direction of loss.

All things on the table I have crafted my associations carefully so I can live this way. Even in my business I only work for people I don’t sense a power struggle or animosity from and I nurture the relationship only as long as the dynamic remains. I’m over inducing stress on one another so if they require that they need to do these things with someone else.

Just commenting so you don’t feel criticism, in a way you are providing a service to others that need this win/lose structure.