07-31-2017, 09:00 PM
People have a lot of distortions, so I wouldn't take the mockery and rejection personally. Once you fully embrace self-love, these things will bother you less and less and you'll start to take them less personally. Cultural/Social/Familial/Religious/Popculture/Regional Interaction norms are bullshit, but that doesn't mean you can't outwardly conform to them while acknowledging this if you so choose to do so. Kind of like how I think much of the culture of the world is BS distortion, but I'll be respectful and conform outwardly to the local customs of whatever place I'm visiting or staying at if it doesn't bother me too much.
Whether you want to change whether you compliment around certain people and groups depends on your personality and attitude toward others reactions and your interest in not getting others riled up- even if you get to the place where you don't need or care about social approval, often conforming outwardly to social norms or group norms about conversation can sometimes just be useful if you don't want the interaction to be around you saying whatever you want, and then their predictable distorted response taking up 10-30 minutes of the interaction you have with them.
Hard to say more without the specifics of your situation.
Whether you want to change whether you compliment around certain people and groups depends on your personality and attitude toward others reactions and your interest in not getting others riled up- even if you get to the place where you don't need or care about social approval, often conforming outwardly to social norms or group norms about conversation can sometimes just be useful if you don't want the interaction to be around you saying whatever you want, and then their predictable distorted response taking up 10-30 minutes of the interaction you have with them.
Hard to say more without the specifics of your situation.
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