(07-22-2017, 10:33 AM)Bring4th_Jade Wrote: I'm shocked that anyone would disagree that a service to others group wouldn't want to harmonize above all. Ra says it was the harmony of the trio that allowed them to continue their service in spite of all the set backs, negative greetings, and ill health of the group. Seems like a good effort to make to me, but obviously if the group is in disagreement on this fundamental level then that will be difficult to achieve.
I'm in a 7 year marriage. There is never even the thought of intentional antagonization of each other to further our growth. Learning to love better is the goal of service to others beings. Sure, the OP is providing a service of being a "difficult to love being" or whatever, but as I said, I have plenty of people in my real life who are challenging enough. If someone on this forum feels like they need to be furthered challenged by a stranger on the internet, there are many other forums out there. I do not believe this is the place to deliberately antagonize each other.
Since I brought up the idea of not having the intention to harmonize, I just want to say that if the above is related to what I wrote, then I didn't express myself well and it was misunderstood. Some of the concepts we canvass here are not simple or black and white. By saying I don't seek to harmonize, I DO NOT mean I don't try to understand others, or have compassion for others, or try to connect with others in a way that isn't antagonistic. What I DO mean is that I won't force myself to fit into a box just because it might have certain qualities I admire. I can use this group as a reference point or inspiration, but not as a box to fit myself to—just as I can contemplate Ra and think how cool it would be to be part of that group, but I can't force myself into it, it must happen naturally.
Perhaps I'm too intellectual for some here. This may be just a matter of semantics, but clarity is important. In the gender thread (I don't recall the name of the thread), it was mentioned that B4 is dominated by too much intellectualizing. The same could be said, if one were inclined to judge which I am not, that things are too emotional here. I am not worried that things will get out of control. There is a safety catch after all.
I think it's fine to maintain the general goal of this forum, that of STO and not STS. (I am curious as to why Zaxxon was allowed to continue here for so long in the STS manner, though I never read any of his/her threads out of lack of interest.) As a moderator, it is your duty to enforce (for lack of a better word) the guidelines. But that's it, I would hope. A moderator can't tell me I have to fit in here. It's ironic isn't it? that so many come here because they feel they don't fit in elsewhere.