There's a devil in my head!

[Cainite]

In my experience, it would be an aspect of the 'higher' self of the male that your beloved is involved with. And if that is the case, then if you learn to stick up for yourself amidst these assaults then you may win back her favor. (positive/negative offering)

I would of course advise you to use this freedom from her as a portal to rapidly learn and grow independent of externalized validation of the self. The Disney love story is generally a trap...

If you want any further help, hit me up. This kind of stuff is my bread and butter, day in and day out. :p

The guy is a mutual friend and I have love and respect for him.. he's very wise and well read. and she also loves me a lot. but she started to see me as her brother after some years since we stopped having sex completely because of the lack of desire. the first two years of our relationship was magical though..
I don't have the desire to win her back. I will love her eternally anyway and her happiness is my greatest wish.

And about hitting you up.. well I'm very embarrassed to even post here since my honesty makes me say embarrassing things about myself..
I delete most of the things I write before posting them here.