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[Jade]

You can try to find the place of with a higher point of view. You can try to accept that we are playing roles on this stage, to help each other develop to be our best. We are stumbling all the time but we have plenty of good moments to keep us going. Learning how to rise above the deep muck that we get into sometimes is really the biggest accomplishment. Revel in the moments you give them peace of mind - even if it's just in their normal interactions with you, how they aren't as antagonistic with you as each other. This is you helping teach them how to treat others more reasonably.

You signed up for this rough service, and due to the picture society tries to paint of family (perfect, constantly loving and in synch) is rarely the case. I think we should start to think more about "family" as "the specific group of crazies that I decided to hitch myself to for this act in the play". It seems that you are spared of most of the direct conflict, which is a success, and your next step is to learn how to not be too sympathetic to the others for the roles they have chosen to play for each other. Yes, they may cause each other pain, but this doesn't have to cause you pain - you can bless and love them in their frantic attempts at learning to love on another. A person who acts as a rock in a group setting usually means more to the others in the group than they let on.

Taking this wider point of view can help for when the emotions of hurt, betrayal, etc catch you in the crossfire. From this place it's easier to forgive.