10-30-2013, 04:37 PM
(10-30-2013, 04:01 PM)xise Wrote: What's interest, upon further research, I think that when many of us post of us judging others, or us judging ourselves, we're actually referring to being judgmental, whose MW definition happens to be http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/judgmental:
Quote:judg·men·tal adjective \ˌjəj-ˈmen-təl\
: tending to judge people too quickly and critically
: of, relating to, or involving judgment
"too ... critically": Does this ring a bell?
(10-30-2013, 03:48 PM)Sagittarius Wrote: We always judge, that is what we are here to do. How narrow or wide that is could be considered wisdom. Judging someone because there post was not perceived to be "warm" enough seams pretty narrow.
Ultimately, in for my understanding of judgment-condemnation, it's the emotional charge, it's the condemnation that is the less skillful part. I apologize if my words seemed to condemn, but I assure you that was not my intent. A mere observation can turn to condemnation, but also what seems to be condemnation can be a mere observation. One can make an observation of a heavy green ray interaction, one can make an observation of a heavy yellow ray interaction, and one only turns those observations into condemnations when the approval/disapproval mechanism attaches (for example, observing heavy yellow ray interaction and thinking or feeling it is "bad" I think would be judgment-condemnation).
The only true test of whether something is an observation or whether something is judgment is whether the one making the statement feels the emotional charge of the approval/disapproval mechanism. Perhaps there was some for me. It's something I will continue to work on!
Yep quite easy for emotional dictations to cloud judgement. Once you make a judgement that all you interact with is self it makes it much easier to identify and ignore emotional nuances.
Getting straight to the meaning of any friction rather then creating fictitious dictations to avoid the responsibility of judgement.