Dealing with sexuality.

[boundlessheart]

Hey Brandon!

I've done a lot of healing work on my own sexuality in the past five years. For what it's worth, it's not easy work, but it can be done. Here's Q'uo on this topic:

(1) On post-coital emptiness: "Thus, it would imply that a feeling of emptiness in such a state points to blockage within the entities energy system in some energy center preceding the green ray chakra." (01/29/2021) Q'uo's recommendation is, as you have surmised, to explore this blockage on your own before engaging in sexual energy transfer. In that channeling, they don't prescribe a means of exploration, but what I've found helpful is to explore in a solitary fashion whatever distortion you may be experiencing by setting the intention to do so beforehand. An exploratory attitude is one that is by definition open and curious. Often, when people are experiencing a distortion of any kind, this distortion, even when distressing, is not consciously explored, because there are such strong feelings of shame and self-judgement that there is no room for a new perspective; it's presumed by the conscious mind to be a fixed situation, which is incorrect. In my understanding, a blockage is an attempt to find and connect with love that has gone awry, through a misunderstanding of sorts. That is, some part of the being thinks that through this distortion unconditional love can be contacted and although pain, emptiness, or further craving result, there is still a belief that this is the appropriate means for contacting that love. A helpful question then, both before and after you explore this distortion in your mind, would be, "Will this actually bring me to the love that I seek?" It may seem simple, but this is in my experience a powerful invocation of the truth and can help re-orient the distortion.

(2) Q'uo says sexual sadism and masochism are the result of the "gathering of experiences which are very painful and which are suppressed because as a young entity in incarnation there has been no way to contain or understand these experiences" (1/23/2010). Although you may not be experiencing these particular distortions, I think it stands to reason that any other kind of blockage would stem from the same cause. Q'uo's recommendation is to "imagine yourself cradling that part of yourself that is involved with the darkness and allowing the Mother aspect of the Creator to swaddle and rock this pain that is within. And through the dark night, continue rocking, continue loving, continue being there for that part of yourself that is in darkness." I found this particularly helpful - the gentle imagery, the compassion for the hurting self, and reaching out to the Creator. Our conditioning is so strong that when it comes to sexual distortions, we often imagine that such a thing could have no connection to the Creator, but just as with any other area of our life, we can ask the Creator to aid us, not because we have done anything wrong or shameful, but because there is a part of us that is unfulfilled and ailing. We can consciously invite the Creator to aid this portion of our life, too.

I have been lurking here some time, but this is an area I've studied (both in my healing practice and on my self), so I felt drawn to answer. I'm happy to share more of my experiences working in this area if you feel that might be helpful!