avoidant dismissive attachment

[RitaJC]

I have been reading about this the last few years.

Just recently I have experienced a close friend falling back into this old habit after a few years of doing quite well connecting to their inner self, soul and loved ones. They about 6 months ago started disconnecting from their soul and heart and has fallen back into dismissing all their own emotions as well as emotional connections to loved ones. They describe the feeling of repulsion when feeling loved and has simply switched off all bonds to their deeper self and those they has been close to. Empathy for self and other-selves is now fully absent.

It is a pretty sad thing. Over the last decade this person has moved towards healing several times each time shocking me with their spiritual core and depth of heart but each time things conspire to send them back to the depths of slumber and detachment.

I find it interesting and sad in context to STS needing to suppress the heart and empathy as this attachment style actually also does this as a coping mechanism. It craves intimacy deep down but due to trauma instead one learns to dismiss its emotions and the emotions of the people closest to them, actually feeling disdain for loved ones who show love or express love.

Recently they has moved into pure hate and anger at every one and every thing and that seems to be all that is left with some unacknowledged but visible to me sadness. There is a quasi intention to keep some contact. Not sure if for future attempts to heal, or to use me and so move deeper into lack of empathy/narcissism, or perhaps they are just undecided so holding on a bit for now.

I wondered if any one else had experienced the parallel behavior in this attachment style. It has always seemed they needed a hand/support in trying to break free from these old patterns and has faught valiantly in other years, this year they are losing the battle at least for now.

Reminds me of a being trying to learn to switch polarity from early sts to sto without having polarized far enough that the change is easy like Ra stated happened at 6D- and finding some parts quite tricky.

Anyways this is a wanderer that took on much to much, very fool hardy and I hope deeply they will reunite with their soul soon.

I know inside is a being of beautiful light.

Anyways just saw the similar pattern and thought it metaphysically significant, apparently 25% of the population has this attachment style.
It must be and incredible fight to attempt to heal.

"There is an irresistible pull to evolution. There is implicit in the structure of each density every potential outworking of every energy within that density. In a universe of builded light the subtleties are endless and, at the same time, progress through the gradually ascending densities is inevitable and irresistible. The only question that each entity faces is, “How quickly do I wish to progress?” There is no question that you will progress. It is as necessary to our nature to progress as it is for the iron to be drawn to the magnet. It is understandable that you might doubt this, for you see instances of your own lack of perceived progress, and you see apparent lapses in progression on the part of those with whom you come in contact. When these lapses are perceived it is easy to become discouraged, but we would encourage each of you to meet these judgmental feelings about the self and others with the courage of your conviction that all is proceeding according to an unseen plan."

https://www.llresearch.org/transcripts/i..._0507.aspx

Perfect !

I can always count on you Rita to post something that puts balance to a conversation. This was a beautiful quote and one that I needed to hear for myself and I am sure Glow will find comfort in it as well. It is a wonderul quote.

I just "stumbled upon" this quote here and here

And saw the connection to this discussion