01-24-2017, 10:22 AM
So please forgive me in advance for asking a question when I don't really knowing what my question is.
I've had several people over the last few years mention casually that they can "flick a switch"(actually all used the same term) and suddenly no longer care about people.
We aren't talking about being at peace over a situation, or realizing a situation isn't healthy and sucking it up and moving on. They literally meant flick poof people they love no longer matter. One of them differentiated by saying he "flicks a switch and no longer has to show he cares" it still eats him but he can suppress the need to act on the caring. The others apparently just no longer care.
So I am uncomfortable with this ability for some reason. They all seem to be decent people but I'm more comfortable knowing I'm investing into relationships where if someone cares they are compelled to be true to that, the ability to easily over ride a conviction of love(we aren't talking crushes or acquaintances) it's so foreign to me it seems like a giant bright red flag.
I don't like to get into categorizing and judging but it seems these people have been attracted to my life. So I bet I'm supposed to learn something maybe about boundaries or something with people who admit (without prompting/like a brag) that they can do this. I don't think other people have this told to them. 3 people have told me this in 2 years. Not only will I never try flicking a switch but I wouldn't because it seems false/dis genuine to me. I have people I have loved that I now love in a peaceful better at a distance way but still there is no act to hide or end the love.
It got me thinking about negative polarity not using heart. I don't think at all these people are negative but we all have some negative patterns.
I guess the question is. Is this a representation of how a negative might control their heart? Again I know these people are not negative just perhaps have a few habits.
Any insight would be great.
I've had several people over the last few years mention casually that they can "flick a switch"(actually all used the same term) and suddenly no longer care about people.
We aren't talking about being at peace over a situation, or realizing a situation isn't healthy and sucking it up and moving on. They literally meant flick poof people they love no longer matter. One of them differentiated by saying he "flicks a switch and no longer has to show he cares" it still eats him but he can suppress the need to act on the caring. The others apparently just no longer care.
So I am uncomfortable with this ability for some reason. They all seem to be decent people but I'm more comfortable knowing I'm investing into relationships where if someone cares they are compelled to be true to that, the ability to easily over ride a conviction of love(we aren't talking crushes or acquaintances) it's so foreign to me it seems like a giant bright red flag.
I don't like to get into categorizing and judging but it seems these people have been attracted to my life. So I bet I'm supposed to learn something maybe about boundaries or something with people who admit (without prompting/like a brag) that they can do this. I don't think other people have this told to them. 3 people have told me this in 2 years. Not only will I never try flicking a switch but I wouldn't because it seems false/dis genuine to me. I have people I have loved that I now love in a peaceful better at a distance way but still there is no act to hide or end the love.
It got me thinking about negative polarity not using heart. I don't think at all these people are negative but we all have some negative patterns.
I guess the question is. Is this a representation of how a negative might control their heart? Again I know these people are not negative just perhaps have a few habits.
Any insight would be great.