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[Nicholas]

Seems that STS oriented people are excellent actors, they can hide pretty well their polarity and real intentions to STO people.

Rather than focus outward as to where STS individuals may linger, what controlling or manipulative behaviour have we ourselves indulged in?

What events have successfully grabbed our attention away from unity? How do we respond to such events?

We cannot know another's polarity because we cannot see the entire volume of data that they have expressed in their lives. Essentially we do not know from which diving board they have sprung from and we try to ascertain such information by analysing the ripples they create. This tells us who are trustworthy, but says nothing about polarity.

The best way to greet anyone  in my view is one of spontaneity, i.e, equality. Otherwise the thought forms of fear (inferiority) and desire (superiority) interfere with this natural catalyst.

I had this experience myself when I experienced the desire to out qualify a female in my workplace. This female was the wife of our customer, in which he asked us to carry out renovations on his very large home. I twigged straight away that she "owned" him and my immediate response was to not fall into her "trap". The trouble with my response was that I generated a desire to "own" her instead. I looked at her not as my equal, but as someone who had "met their match". 

"She would not fool me!" I thought. 

The way in which she would not give eye contact proved a personal success to me. But I was not being loving in this scenario. What it brought home to me was the nature of my own blockages, at that time.

STS folks intrigue me more than they do scare me. But this honest reflection about STS folks is more precisely a pointer as to where the love/light is essentially blocked in my own life!!!