Sexual addiction! and Male-Female energy roles/energies

[Diana]

Don't think about a pink elephant.

See what I did there?  You can't help but think of a pink elephant, even when I tell you explicitly not to.  That's why it's gotta be about balancing and acceptance, with discipline only coming into play as a corollary to acceptance, not an overcoming of temptation.

The internet is great at making people think about porn, I'm thinking about it now.  But resisting it just charges it.  You're doing well, TTP.  

That's why I said my method is sideways, or a back door. It works. There is no resistance or acceptance. There is only changing focus. And the more you do it, the less power the unwanted behavior has over you.

I figure I can forgive myself later if I need to. Perhaps forgiving and accepting should come first. I don't know. But I do know how improbable that can be. So I don't let that stop me from consciously taking the reigns. Otherwise, it could be like psychotherapy which can go on for years and years trying to accept, unearth, forgive. In lieu of that, action can work at least on a certain level. Then things have a tendency to balance themselves out anyway.