I genuinely do not prefer politeness

[Jade]

I find that I rarely have any other reaction to other selves than politeness, which is actually usually genuine. I find that when I'm actively trying to be contradictory it feels like the more "unnatural" reaction to an event.

I've gotten enough flack in my life for being "too nice" or "fake" or "bubbly" to know that it's not "fake" or insincere or in any way restrained, it's just one way of being among many.

Maybe that's why it's been mostly difficult for people to "bond" with me, and maybe that's also why Q'uo et al. stress that to aim for perfection or to be perceived as perfect is naught but a self-serving goal. It's true that I've had to learn that others viewing me without flaws is not a desired state of being, but even now that I enjoy my "imperfections" and allow myself to make more mistakes, it doesn't make me any less polite when interacting with others.

Miriam Webster:

po·lite
adjective \pə-ˈlīt\

: having or showing good manners or respect for other people

: socially correct or proper

How dreadful ! !