I am having a hard time with my son's behavior.  He is very STS.  He is 17 years old and I feel like if he doesn't change his ways he is headed for distaster.  He is just like his father who I have been divorced from for over 12 years.  I know that he has his own journey but it hurts me to see him go through this.  I try to teach him compassion, and try to guide him but it only lasts for a short time.  I feel very frustrated.  I wonder if there is a genetic thread to this behavior??

I literally asked him yesterday if he would ever consider being of service to other?  He looked at me like I was asking him something that was completely absurd.  I asked him if he could just do something for someone else without expecting something in return.  He made excuses for his behavior of course. 

Now I have a part in this and feel some responsibility, I have overindulged him because I felt sorry for him.  His father had a drug problem and was controlling and very mean spirited, or STS oriented.  So I went over and above for him and catered to him.  Tried to protect him.  I feel like I did more harm than good!