Why We Shout When In Anger

[indiGo33]

Spiritual Story
Author: unknown

A Hindu saint who was visiting river Ganges to take bath found a group of family members on the banks, shouting in anger at each other. He turned to his disciples smiled and asked.

'Why do people shout in anger shout at each other?'

Disciples thought for a while, one of them said, 'Because we lose our calm, we shout.'

'But, why should you shout when the other person is just next to you? You can as well tell him what you have to say in a soft manner.' asked the saint

Disciples gave some other answers but none satisfied the other disciples.
Finally the saint explained, .

'When two people are angry at each other, their hearts distance a lot. To cover that distance they must shout to be able to hear each other. The angrier they are, the stronger they will have to shout to hear each other to cover that great distance.

What happens when two people fall in love? They don't shout at each other but talk softly, Because their hearts are very close. The distance between them is either nonexistent or very small...'

The saint continued, 'When they love each other even more, what happens? They do not speak, only whisper and they get even closer to each other in their love. Finally they even need not whisper, they only look at each other and that's all. That is how close two people are when they love each other.'

He looked at his disciples and said.

'So when you argue do not let your hearts get distant, Do not say words that distance each other more, Or else there will come a day when the distance is so great that you will not find the path to return.'

[Unbound]

Beautiful!

[Brittany]

Or they might just be deaf.

[Ruth]

What a lovely story indiGo33.

Do you shout when you are angry? I don't. I get very, very quiet.

[Lycen]

What a great analogy, I like it! (literally and forumly)

Thank you for sharing Indi

[Meerie]

I heard that Gurdieffs father, on his death bed gave the following advice to his son:

If someone evokes anger in you, wait 24 hours. Then get back to the person and say whatever it is you want to say...

[Oceania]

that is annoying. i shout because i'm hurt and it's a way to release the anger instead of getting physically violent. or because people just ignore soft speak and it frickin pisses me off½!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1

[C-JEAN]

Hi all !

If someone evokes anger in you, wait 24 hours. Then get back to the person and say whatever it is you want to say...

! ! ! That is a MUST with E-mails too ! ! !

[ If an E-mail evokes anger in you, WAIT 24 hours !
Then get back to the keyboard and write your answer.]

This way, chances are you will not regret your answer.
And mostly, writings are almost for ever !!

Blue skies.

[Oceania]

no you should write what you wanna say immediately. wait 24 hours and revise it.

[kanonathena]

A great way to put it!

Finally they even need not whisper, they only look at each other and that's all. That is how close two people are when they love each other.'

When eyes meet, both time and space will dissolve, a state of love.

[Unbound]

I never trust my mind when I am angry, always better to allow the feeling to fully be experienced before reacting, for me anyways.

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I don't feel you have to externally express things in order to feel, accept and experience what you are feeling. The external expression comes as the energy is transmuted up the centers.

[zenmaster]

Anger is a failed projection.

[reeay]

Sometimes when I really listen carefully to people's anger (their stories), I find that the anger is secondary to something deeper - deeper emotions like sadness, pain, mourning loss etc.,. That means that anger is a reaction to another, deeper emotion. It's great to deal with ones anger and it's even nicer to go deeper to see what's underneath the anger. Anger is such a functional emotions - it keeps people from getting close to you (protection) and it shows others that you are not feeling so good (communication). So I guess... don't get stuck on the anger level, go deeper...

[zenmaster]

Emotions themselves are unconscious reactions. What underlies them is some pattern of mind, and that pattern doesn't have to be that deep actually. We can easily see this after bringing consciousness to bear on resolving superficial misunderstandings which predisposed one to anger.

[reeay]

True, unless having difficulty working through anger, then it's possible that anger is being used as a 'reaction to a reaction.' The limitation of our brain is that it could only process/recognize one emotion at a time. Anger being a survival-related emotion, usually is in the forefront.