11-03-2012, 10:53 AM
It seems that projections paint others and things as complementary to our biases. Complementary in the sense of justifying/supporting our bias. Bias, as in 'role', disposition, 'mission', etc.
Are there other causes of projection?
For instance, I'm noticed, among others, one that's particularly forceful is to tend to see what others share with me as chances to offer 'my illuminating explanation/understanding/answer' or even just to direct their attention to things i think are revealing -- i do have a bias towards 'having the answer/understanding', because i want to understand in general.
I began to see how that blinds me to recognising and addressing other aspects of the communication/relationship like letting the other person know that you have genuine concern for their lives, building and affective connection, being a viable, long term support for that other person in a way that's not taxing.
How does one meet a situation/communication more 'as is'?
Also, i do think that sometimes projections can be decently accurate intuitions about a situation...does it then become a matter of managing them? How does one tell when it's an intuition about what's probably going?
Are there other causes of projection?
For instance, I'm noticed, among others, one that's particularly forceful is to tend to see what others share with me as chances to offer 'my illuminating explanation/understanding/answer' or even just to direct their attention to things i think are revealing -- i do have a bias towards 'having the answer/understanding', because i want to understand in general.
I began to see how that blinds me to recognising and addressing other aspects of the communication/relationship like letting the other person know that you have genuine concern for their lives, building and affective connection, being a viable, long term support for that other person in a way that's not taxing.
How does one meet a situation/communication more 'as is'?
Also, i do think that sometimes projections can be decently accurate intuitions about a situation...does it then become a matter of managing them? How does one tell when it's an intuition about what's probably going?