I am a wanderer and - self acceptance post, feel free to add
10-11-2018, 01:54 PM,
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I am a wanderer and - self acceptance post, feel free to add
I guess this is a self acceptance post. - I am a wanderer and I am mediocre at everything but love and maybe self awareness.

So much of culture is competition and doing great things, or doing lots of things as great as one can, achievement and progress.
Survival of the "fittest" now encompasses so many things to do well.

2019 is my year of stepping closer to full self acceptance.
To do that I have to be more than just aware I am mediocre at life but accept that and fully see I am still as of value as anyone else.

I know that on a soul level but my ego still has some control that thinks  I should have measured proof of my value.
I am done that game. It is no longer and never really was fun.

I have always known on some level I was kept only pretty good at stuff, never the best or even great and I have consciously knew it was designed this way to keep me from being prideful. Good plan. It worked but it's time to fully stop punishing myself subconsciously for not being what the world approves of.

It's funny how you can know and believe something intellectually a long time but the path to full acceptance is long.

I have a mediocre business and make mediocre money. It's enough I cover 40% of our household income but it might not always be the case. I likely only have 15 more years I can do this job then I as of yet do not know what I will do or how much I will earn.
I could make much more in my current business but I am a mediocre business person. Honestly I think I am only in business because people trust me, they like me and they know I care about them and their projects so that makes up for my truly not being the best... at anything.

I also still even after all this time healing can still only handle so much time out in the world. My intestinal fortitude is mediocre.
I used to be extremely smart but a few head injuries have left me, you guessed it mediocre.  Tongue  

I am not the best cook. 35% of the time I will make food better than you could get at a restaurant, the rest of the time it is surprisingly just ok. So mediocre really.

I'm pretty great with plants, animals, other peoples kids/teens, and intimate relationships. I am good at love.
I love people and I can make people feel really good mind/body/soul depending on the situation but everything else I am just ok and/or mediocre at.

I will keep trying and maybe one day find some other stuff I am not mediocre at but I am going to accept myself now and not hold it against myself if those things never show up.

This feels a bit like taking off the remaining mask of seeking acceptance and starting to fully except myself.
2019 hopefully is the year, if I prove mediocre at this too I will just keep trying.  Blush

Thanks for reading and being a part of my unveiling.  Smile
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10-11-2018, 02:04 PM,
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I don't know if I've been mediocre at life. I am good at love too.
But I'm sort of blind to how I'm really doing.
Still, I am most eager to advance spiritually.
So I do what I can. I work a lot with my spirit guide.

I sure hope 2019 is your year too.

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10-11-2018, 05:23 PM,
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lol I don't find you mediocre at all Glow, I sometimes cook really good food and then it can be atrocious..lol and you thing you are mediocre at business and do mediocre money but what if that is what you planned before incarnating ? lol

I was reading Q'uo last night and found this exquisite passage :
" Somehow the failure-after-failure that each perceives in spiritual journeying adds up to a miracle of learning to love. And in spite of every feeling of failure, and perhaps because of it as well, you find yourselves where you were not before : more capable of and more sensitive to seeing your own vulnerability and imperfection. " Seems to me that is what you created : " I am pretty great with plants, animals, other peoples kids/teens, and intimate relationships. I am good at love. "... Wink
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10-11-2018, 09:00 PM,
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(10-11-2018, 05:23 PM)flofrog Wrote:  lol I don't find you mediocre at all Glow, I sometimes cook really good food and then it can be atrocious..lol and you thing you are mediocre at business and do mediocre money but what if that is what you planned before incarnating ? lol

I was reading Q'uo last night and found this exquisite passage :
" Somehow the failure-after-failure that each perceives in spiritual journeying adds up to a miracle of learning to love. And in spite of every feeling of failure, and perhaps because of it as well, you find yourselves where you were not before : more capable of and more sensitive to seeing your own vulnerability and imperfection. " Seems to me that is what you created : " I am pretty great with plants, animals, other peoples kids/teens, and intimate relationships. I am good at love. "... Wink

Thanks Flofrog

Great find on the Q,uo. That’s awesome.
Do you know what channeling that was?

I do think it’s all preincarnative. Even with the spiritual knowledge of intrinsic worth there is something about not making the grade “in the world” and definitely still knowing you/me/we all are worthy.

An experience for the creator to be mediocre and yet still love so deeply self and all other selves. Whats that term radical self acceptance?

I’m heading that way. Smile
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10-11-2018, 11:08 PM,
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I think its all pre-incarnative too.

The passage in Q'uo is from session 13, Carla is channeling Q'uo, and after that passage Q'uo states that it would be great that we stop thinking and accept the mystery. Gaze at the mystery and feel the 'stunning glory and majesty of the infinite mystery. In that awareness lies the protection that embraces vulnerability. There, in the shadow of the mystery lies the infinite wealth of love that feeds even the "you " that suffers most, even at the darkest hour. " Isn't that beautiful ?
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10-12-2018, 12:30 AM,
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Glow, a very beautiful and soothing energy comes through in all your posts. It has nothing to do with your words, so it must be your essence. It's like a flower in the room - it does not need to "do" anything to contribute plenty.
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10-12-2018, 12:33 AM, (This post was last modified: 10-12-2018, 12:39 AM by Infinite Unity.)
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(10-11-2018, 01:54 PM)Glow Wrote:  I guess this is a self acceptance post. - I am a wanderer and I am mediocre at everything but love and maybe self awareness.

So much of culture is competition and doing great things, or doing lots of things as great as one can, achievement and progress.
Survival of the "fittest" now encompasses so many things to do well.

2019 is my year of stepping closer to full self acceptance.
To do that I have to be more than just aware I am mediocre at life but accept that and fully see I am still as of value as anyone else.

I know that on a soul level but my ego still has some control that thinks  I should have measured proof of my value.
I am done that game. It is no longer and never really was fun.

I have always known on some level I was kept only pretty good at stuff, never the best or even great and I have consciously knew it was designed this way to keep me from being prideful. Good plan. It worked but it's time to fully stop punishing myself subconsciously for not being what the world approves of.

It's funny how you can know and believe something intellectually a long time but the path to full acceptance is long.

I have a mediocre business and make mediocre money. It's enough I cover 40% of our household income but it might not always be the case. I likely only have 15 more years I can do this job then I as of yet do not know what I will do or how much I will earn.
I could make much more in my current business but I am a mediocre business person. Honestly I think I am only in business because people trust me, they like me and they know I care about them and their projects so that makes up for my truly not being the best... at anything.

I also still even after all this time healing can still only handle so much time out in the world. My intestinal fortitude is mediocre.
I used to be extremely smart but a few head injuries have left me, you guessed it mediocre.  Tongue  

I am not the best cook. 35% of the time I will make food better than you could get at a restaurant, the rest of the time it is surprisingly just ok. So mediocre really.

I'm pretty great with plants, animals, other peoples kids/teens, and intimate relationships. I am good at love.
I love people and I can make people feel really good mind/body/soul depending on the situation but everything else I am just ok and/or mediocre at.

I will keep trying and maybe one day find some other stuff I am not mediocre at but I am going to accept myself now and not hold it against myself if those things never show up.

This feels a bit like taking off the remaining mask of seeking acceptance and starting to fully except myself.
2019 hopefully is the year, if I prove mediocre at this too I will just keep trying.  Blush

Thanks for reading and being a part of my unveiling.  Smile

Very nice and open post. Large sign posts of moving towards that loafty goal of acceptance.

My story is different. I am actually pretty good at a lot of things. I have always excelled with out even trying. However any time I have gotten prideful, I was immediately shown humility. Even though I excell and am pretty good. I have never been succesfull. Seems a paradox to say one is great at many things, yet has no success. As success is usually the measuringing stick of greatness here.

I mean it differently. I mean that I have a great level of skill, yet somehow consistently in my life, success has been very hard to find. Pratically unachievable, to the point at almost any attempt at success, at almost anything, results in a negative loss.

Not only has success been practically unfounded. The feedback I have always gotten from people, is of a hugely mixed type. Almost leaving no room to measurably understand how people see me, or where I even fit in the "hierachy" of yellow and etc. I don't think I do have a realitive fixed position like almost everyone else. I think so many people see me in such a different light and way. That I'm constantly shuffling around with no fixed place. It makes for a really really swerve and unstable experience a lot of times, and others it has a sort of positive effect. It has adamantly strengthened my acceptance of others towards me, and I have been forefronted with so much catalyst, would leave me pulverized if not for at least a threshold of efficacy with them. I even feel like I'm starting to get the hang, and the strength necessary to stay balanced, even with the effects from yellow, and interrelated systems.

It has an odd effect of seeming like it's the first time you've met someone, and there sizing you up and weighing you, and placing you subtely with in the hierarchy, a lot of the times your re-approaching people. Especially people you haven't known that long. Like a new work situation. Then you can tell that they think your weird or something, because "why are they feeling this way about you...??"" type of thing.
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10-12-2018, 02:04 AM,
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A wonderful vulnerable post and great comments, everybody!

As a Chrone, I can, finally, say wholeheartedly:

1. all comparisons and competition are highly overrated and don't even make real sense (what would count as a huge achievement for somebody feels only mediocre for somebody else, i.e.), we are all perfect/ever evolving expressions of the one infinite Creator,
2. how "others" feel and think about me is none of my business = can't be controlled by me and says more about "them" than "me" (discovering this really saved my body and soul), none of us really knows the "other", the only thing we operate with is our image of them,
3. self-acceptance is a crucial part of learning how to love unconditionally (for me, it was the hardest part to learn even after I was living in absolute acceptance of every other expression of the Creator for years),
4. the only thing we ever experience is what we believe about ourselves which can be a bad news and a good news: there is nobody else to blame for any unpleasant experience but we can replace the unconscious process of manifesting our fears with the conscious process of manifesting our true hearts desires = make our experience blissful and change the experience of others as well.

My experience of transformation during this incarnation is rich and long (that's why it isn't written down and posted as one of the Wanderer Stories). Any questions welcome though.
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10-12-2018, 02:30 AM,
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"If Sun thou canst not be, then be the humble planet. Aye, if thou art debarred from flaming like the noon-day Sun upon the snow-capped mount of purity eternal, then choose, O Neophyte, a humbler course." - Christmas Humphrey 'The Wisdom of Buddhism'

Some advice that was given to me recently you might also appreciate.
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10-12-2018, 07:56 AM,
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(10-12-2018, 12:30 AM)Stranger Wrote:  Glow, a very beautiful and soothing energy comes through in all your posts. It has nothing to do with your words, so it must be your essence. It's like a flower in the room - it does not need to "do" anything to contribute plenty.

That’s the nicest thing anyone has ever said to me.
Thank you Smile
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10-12-2018, 07:26 PM,
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(10-12-2018, 12:33 AM)Infinite Unity Wrote:  Very nice and open post. Large sign posts of moving towards that loafty goal of acceptance.

My story is different. I am actually pretty good at a lot of things. I have always excelled with out even trying. However any time I have gotten prideful, I was immediately shown humility. Even though I excell and am pretty good. I have never been succesfull. Seems a paradox to say one is great at many things, yet has no success. As success is usually the measuringing stick of greatness here.

I mean it differently. I mean that I have a great level of skill, yet somehow consistently in my life, success has been very hard to find. Pratically unachievable, to the point at almost any attempt at success, at almost anything, results in a negative loss.

Not only has success been practically unfounded. The feedback I have always gotten from people, is of a hugely mixed type. Almost leaving no room to measurably understand how people see me, or where I even fit in the "hierachy" of yellow and etc. I don't think I do have a realitive fixed position like almost everyone else. I think so many people see me in such a different light and way. That I'm constantly shuffling around with no fixed place. It makes for a really really swerve and unstable experience a lot of times, and others it has a sort of positive effect. It has adamantly strengthened my acceptance of others towards me, and I have been forefronted with so much catalyst, would leave me pulverized if not for at least a threshold of efficacy with them. I even feel like I'm starting to get the hang, and the strength necessary to stay balanced, even with the effects from yellow, and interrelated systems.

It has an odd effect of seeming like it's the first time you've met someone, and there sizing you up and weighing you, and placing you subtely with in the hierarchy, a lot of the times your re-approaching people. Especially people you haven't known that long. Like a new work situation. Then you can tell that they think your weird or something, because "why are they feeling this way about you...??"" type of thing.

Sorry was rushing out the door this morning and didn't have a chance to really reply.

That is a pretty interesting variation of a theme you are living. Do you think it was pre incarnative too? It would certainly be catalyzing and teach an experiencer to eventually give up looking for any kind of validation from the outside world.

What a hard lesson but it separates you from consensus reality in a way which could be useful to keep you focused spiritually.
We all did some weird things to set up strange but hopefully useful life experiences.

I like ya I.U. not that it should matter but I see your worth.
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10-12-2018, 07:33 PM,
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(10-12-2018, 02:04 AM)RitaJC Wrote:  A wonderful vulnerable post and great comments, everybody!

As a Chrone, I can, finally, say wholeheartedly:

1. all comparisons and competition are highly overrated and don't even make real sense (what would count as a huge achievement for somebody feels only mediocre for somebody else, i.e.), we are all perfect/ever evolving expressions of the one infinite Creator,
2. how "others" feel and think about me is none of my business = can't be controlled by me and says more about "them" than "me" (discovering this really saved my body and soul), none of us really knows the "other", the only thing we operate with is our image of them,
3. self-acceptance is a crucial part of learning how to love unconditionally (for me, it was the hardest part to learn even after I was living in absolute acceptance of every other expression of the Creator for years),
4. the only thing we ever experience is what we believe about ourselves which can be a bad news and a good news: there is nobody else to blame for any unpleasant experience but we can replace the unconscious process of manifesting our fears with the conscious process of manifesting our true hearts desires = make our experience blissful and change the experience of others as well.

My experience of transformation during this incarnation is rich and long (that's why it isn't written down and posted as one of the Wanderer Stories). Any questions welcome though.

I think I have nailed point 1, and 2 and am working to fully solidify/crystallize 3. I think you are right about it being big for unconditional love. We can accept others without taking into account the worlds view but it is harder to ignore the worlds supposed valuation when it is about us. Finally getting past that means or at least should mean that it is unshakable the unconditional aspects.
Day by day, step by step.

It is funny I posted this yesterday and sent similar to those closest t me. Might sound strange but I wanted to remove all pretense that I was going to hide behind any illusion I was trying to seek acceptance or was feeling I had to become more worthy.

I feel weirdly calm since doing so. Hopefully it will just become an unstoppable snowball rolling down hill and I will be free of all judgement of any kind eventually. F the veil I love it all no need to separate from any wounded aspect. Just love it.

I guess I need to love the veil too. Heart

Thanks Rita
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10-12-2018, 07:36 PM,
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(10-12-2018, 02:30 AM)Aion Wrote:  "If Sun thou canst not be, then be the humble planet. Aye, if thou art debarred from flaming like the noon-day Sun upon the snow-capped mount of purity eternal, then choose, O Neophyte, a humbler course." - Christmas Humphrey 'The Wisdom of Buddhism'

Some advice that was given to me recently you might also appreciate.

I do like that very much!
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10-12-2018, 07:38 PM,
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(10-11-2018, 11:08 PM)flofrog Wrote:  I think its all pre-incarnative too.

The passage in Q'uo is from session 13,  Carla is channeling Q'uo, and after that passage Q'uo states that it would be great that we stop thinking and accept the mystery. Gaze at the mystery and feel the 'stunning glory and majesty of the infinite mystery. In that awareness lies the protection that embraces vulnerability. There, in the shadow of the mystery lies the infinite wealth of love that feeds even the "you " that suffers most, even at the darkest hour. "   Isn't that beautiful ?

Wow! That is beautiful and I really have to read more Q'uo!
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10-13-2018, 09:07 AM,
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(10-12-2018, 07:26 PM)Glow Wrote:  
(10-12-2018, 12:33 AM)Infinite Unity Wrote:  Very nice and open post. Large sign posts of moving towards that loafty goal of acceptance.

My story is different. I am actually pretty good at a lot of things. I have always excelled with out even trying. However any time I have gotten prideful, I was immediately shown humility. Even though I excell and am pretty good. I have never been succesfull. Seems a paradox to say one is great at many things, yet has no success. As success is usually the measuringing stick of greatness here.

I mean it differently. I mean that I have a great level of skill, yet somehow consistently in my life, success has been very hard to find. Pratically unachievable, to the point at almost any attempt at success, at almost anything, results in a negative loss.

Not only has success been practically unfounded. The feedback I have always gotten from people, is of a hugely mixed type. Almost leaving no room to measurably understand how people see me, or where I even fit in the "hierachy" of yellow and etc. I don't think I do have a realitive fixed position like almost everyone else. I think so many people see me in such a different light and way. That I'm constantly shuffling around with no fixed place. It makes for a really really swerve and unstable experience a lot of times, and others it has a sort of positive effect. It has adamantly strengthened my acceptance of others towards me, and I have been forefronted with so much catalyst, would leave me pulverized if not for at least a threshold of efficacy with them. I even feel like I'm starting to get the hang, and the strength necessary to stay balanced, even with the effects from yellow, and interrelated systems.

It has an odd effect of seeming like it's the first time you've met someone, and there sizing you up and weighing you, and placing you subtely with in the hierarchy, a lot of the times your re-approaching people. Especially people you haven't known that long. Like a new work situation. Then you can tell that they think your weird or something, because "why are they feeling this way about you...??"" type of thing.

Sorry was rushing out the door this morning and didn't have a chance to really reply.

That is a pretty interesting variation of a theme you are living. Do you think it was pre incarnative too? It would certainly be catalyzing and teach an experiencer to eventually give up looking for any kind of validation from the outside world.

What a hard lesson but it separates you from consensus reality in a way which could be useful to keep you focused spiritually.
We all did some weird things to set up strange but hopefully useful  life experiences.

I like ya I.U. not that it should matter but I see your worth.

I believe a lot of the conditions that have lead here, where preincarnative. However I think a good portion of the "flavor" of the life was unforeseen.

Thank You I appreciate that.
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10-13-2018, 10:26 AM,
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(10-11-2018, 01:54 PM)Glow Wrote:  I guess this is a self acceptance post. - I am a wanderer and I am mediocre at everything but love and maybe self awareness.

So much of culture is competition and doing great things, or doing lots of things as great as one can, achievement and progress.
Survival of the "fittest" now encompasses so many things to do well.

2019 is my year of stepping closer to full self acceptance.
To do that I have to be more than just aware I am mediocre at life but accept that and fully see I am still as of value as anyone else.

I know that on a soul level but my ego still has some control that thinks I should have measured proof of my value.
I am done that game. It is no longer and never really was fun.

I have always known on some level I was kept only pretty good at stuff, never the best or even great and I have consciously knew it was designed this way to keep me from being prideful. Good plan. It worked but it's time to fully stop punishing myself subconsciously for not being what the world approves of.

It's funny how you can know and believe something intellectually a long time but the path to full acceptance is long.

I have a mediocre business and make mediocre money. It's enough I cover 40% of our household income but it might not always be the case. I likely only have 15 more years I can do this job then I as of yet do not know what I will do or how much I will earn.
I could make much more in my current business but I am a mediocre business person. Honestly I think I am only in business because people trust me, they like me and they know I care about them and their projects so that makes up for my truly not being the best... at anything.

I also still even after all this time healing can still only handle so much time out in the world. My intestinal fortitude is mediocre.
I used to be extremely smart but a few head injuries have left me, you guessed it mediocre. Tongue

I am not the best cook. 35% of the time I will make food better than you could get at a restaurant, the rest of the time it is surprisingly just ok. So mediocre really.

I'm pretty great with plants, animals, other peoples kids/teens, and intimate relationships. I am good at love.
I love people and I can make people feel really good mind/body/soul depending on the situation but everything else I am just ok and/or mediocre at.

I will keep trying and maybe one day find some other stuff I am not mediocre at but I am going to accept myself now and not hold it against myself if those things never show up.

This feels a bit like taking off the remaining mask of seeking acceptance and starting to fully except myself.
2019 hopefully is the year, if I prove mediocre at this too I will just keep trying. Blush

Thanks for reading and being a part of my unveiling. Smile


In my opinion, it is important to see what the root of all this "i am mediocre" is!
I mean, on an "adult level" and on a philosophical level we know that its not about being "better, the best, oustanding, comparison, competition", but did that ever convince us?

I found that no matter how many skills i develop, no matter how good i necome at something, even if it was extraordiniarily good, it never made the "not good enough" or "i should be better" go away.
This is simply because the "not good enough" does not originally come from the adult person we are, but from the child or infant we have been.
So, any "adjustment" in philosophy can only bring us so far, it is just the wrong aspect we're working on.
Ultimately we have to heal the child/infant in us, that hasnt been acknowledged and has been rejected.
There was a time when we needed to be acknowledged necause our life was dependant on it, there was a time when rejection was a catastrophe, and those feeling are that which is getting triggered again and again, and those feelings are what is behind our beliefs of "not good enough".
Similar thing with competition. Competition arises in families with limited ability to love. So the motherr and/or father has not enough inner capacity to love all children and family members as they would need it.
In such a situation, children begin to compete for the little "bits" of love that are available.
Similarly to the "not good enough" issue, it can ultimately be healed only at the very spot it arose originally.

As for "it is pre-incarnational", I agree, but what does that mean?
Actually, all our birth/ family/ childhood surroundings and challenges are pre-incarnational.
Pre-incarnational choices, as sometimes mentioned in the Ra material, are however usually choices that cannot be undone.

However that is not true for all our early incarnational issues!
Pretty much everything of that is subject to healing, change and growth.

A last thing:
I would say you have developed the most important thing much much more than average:
it is your consciousness, your awareness and the openness of your heart.
I dont think you're mediocre at that!
At least from my perspective, these are THE most important skills we can develop here!
So, congratulations on being extraordinarily skilled Smile
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(10-12-2018, 07:33 PM)Glow Wrote:  
(10-12-2018, 02:04 AM)RitaJC Wrote:  A wonderful vulnerable post and great comments, everybody!

As a Chrone, I can, finally, say wholeheartedly:

1. all comparisons and competition are highly overrated and don't even make real sense (what would count as a huge achievement for somebody feels only mediocre for somebody else, i.e.), we are all perfect/ever evolving expressions of the one infinite Creator,
2. how "others" feel and think about me is none of my business = can't be controlled by me and says more about "them" than "me" (discovering this really saved my body and soul), none of us really knows the "other", the only thing we operate with is our image of them,
3. self-acceptance is a crucial part of learning how to love unconditionally (for me, it was the hardest part to learn even after I was living in absolute acceptance of every other expression of the Creator for years),
4. the only thing we ever experience is what we believe about ourselves which can be a bad news and a good news: there is nobody else to blame for any unpleasant experience but we can replace the unconscious process of manifesting our fears with the conscious process of manifesting our true hearts desires = make our experience blissful and change the experience of others as well.

My experience of transformation during this incarnation is rich and long (that's why it isn't written down and posted as one of the Wanderer Stories). Any questions welcome though.

I think I have nailed point 1, and 2 and am working to fully solidify/crystallize 3. I think you are right about it being big for unconditional love. We can accept others without taking into account the worlds view but it is harder to ignore the worlds supposed valuation when it is about us. Finally getting past that means or at least should mean that it is unshakable the unconditional aspects.
Day by day, step by step.

It is funny I posted this yesterday and sent similar to those closest t me. Might sound strange but I wanted to remove all pretense that I was going to hide behind any illusion I was trying to seek acceptance or was feeling I had to become more worthy.

I feel weirdly calm since doing so. Hopefully it will just become an unstoppable snowball rolling down hill and I will be free of all judgement of any kind eventually. F the veil I love it all no need to separate from any wounded aspect. Just love it.

I guess I need to love the veil too.  Heart

Thanks Rita

The revelation that changed this for 180 degrees for me was this: Until that moment I was asking and expecting from my human self the level of genuine perfection innate to the higher self. At that moment, everything changed and I could feel the same unconditional acceptance and compassion towards this person/body as I had been always feeling towards other beings of all densities
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10-13-2018, 12:35 PM,
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(10-13-2018, 10:26 AM)Agua Wrote:  In my opinion, it is important to see what the root of all this "i am mediocre" is!
I mean, on an "adult level" and on a philosophical level we know that its not about being "better, the best, oustanding, comparison, competition", but did that ever convince us?

I found that no matter how many skills i develop, no matter how good i necome at something, even if it was extraordiniarily good, it never made the "not good enough" or "i should be better" go away.
This is simply because the "not good enough" does not originally come from the adult person we are, but from the child or infant we have been.
So, any "adjustment" in philosophy can only bring us so far, it is just the wrong aspect we're working on.
Ultimately we have to heal the child/infant in us, that hasnt been acknowledged and has been rejected.
There was a time when we needed to be acknowledged necause our life was dependant on it, there was a time when rejection was a catastrophe, and those feeling are that which is getting triggered again and again, and those feelings are what is behind our beliefs of "not good enough".
Similar thing with competition. Competition arises in families with limited ability to love. So the motherr and/or father has not enough inner capacity to love all children and family members as they would need it.
In such a situation, children begin to compete for the little "bits" of love that are available.
Similarly to the "not good enough" issue, it can ultimately be healed only at the very spot it arose originally.

As for "it is pre-incarnational", I agree, but what does that mean?
Actually, all our birth/ family/ childhood surroundings and challenges are pre-incarnational.
Pre-incarnational choices, as sometimes mentioned in the Ra material, are however usually choices that cannot be undone.

However that is not true for all our early incarnational issues!
Pretty much everything of that is subject to healing, change and growth.

A last thing:
I would say you have developed the most important thing much much more than average:
it is your consciousness, your awareness and the openness of your heart.
I dont think you're mediocre at that!
At least from my perspective, these are THE most important skills we can develop here!
So, congratulations on being extraordinarily skilled Smile
Thanks Agua I really enjoyed reading that.

Great insight into the root of this struggling, and I would agree I’m glad the things I have not been mediocre at are the ones they are.

I like this path even though it isn’t where one can find conventional success, it works for my soul who obviously wanted to be here and be this. Smile

I hope you are doing well after your recent loss.
Noticed you missing and was thinking of you hoping all was well in your experience. Smile
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10-13-2018, 02:28 PM,
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(10-13-2018, 12:35 PM)Glow Wrote:  Thanks Agua I really enjoyed reading that.

Great insight into the root of this struggling, and I would agree I’m glad the things I have not been mediocre at are the ones they are.

I like this path even though it isn’t where one can find conventional success, it works for my soul who obviously wanted to be here and be this. Smile

I hope you are doing well after your recent loss.
Noticed you missing and was thinking of you hoping all was well in your experience. Smile

Thank you for your concerns Smile
I'm quite fine with everything!
Actually, I havent been thinking about the loss anymore after two days, the plant journey must have effectively brought up everything there was to process.
I am a veteran with death however, and i realized it becomes much easier with each experience!

Apart from that i didnt have much time, that was the main reason, i spent more time than i actually could afford here the past few weeks trying to help stabilize a certain member, so i needed to catch up on work and sleep Wink
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10-13-2018, 04:55 PM,
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Mediocre? you're amazing. and modest too.

You've been patient and supporting with me. that takes strenght of character. mostly have failed at that after a short time. (I'm lovely, I know Big Grin )
Seriously though, I appreciate you and admire certain things about you, Glow.

I've thought about these things a lot and now I think we're all human. and it's best to look at it simple as that. I try not to dedicate much to proving myself to anyone (or even to myself nowadays) or gain fame and other things that's respectable in the eyes of our world. rather than seeking that through doing certain things on social media, ... I try to have fun instead! god that's so much better.
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10-14-2018, 12:09 PM,
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(10-13-2018, 04:55 PM)Cainite Wrote:  Mediocre? you're amazing. and modest too.

You've been patient and supporting with me. that takes strenght of character. mostly have failed at that after a short time. (I'm lovely, I know Big Grin )
Seriously though, I appreciate you and admire certain things about you, Glow.

I've thought about these things a lot and now I think we're all human. and it's best to look at it simple as that. I try not to dedicate much to proving myself to anyone (or even to myself nowadays) or gain fame and other things that's respectable in the eyes of our world. rather than seeking that through doing certain things on social media, ... I try to have fun instead! god that's so much better.

I am so glad to see you back on the forum Cainite. Missed you.
I am not great at taking compliments so this thread has been practice for me. You are very kind, thanks for seeing my value. Blush

It sounds like we are walking the same self acceptance path, and I like your perspective on it.
I am glad you are having fun. I am sure the better we are able to step out of "the game" of measuring our worth and each others and as you said "try to have fun" I am sure it is a service to the collective energy. Lightening the vibration of judgement and lifting it to joy and love.
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