10-30-2012, 09:27 PM
Hey all, I think I have a good question this time.
This came to me last night in the shower. I was having an argument with my wife, which is a rarity, but it happens.
I realized that my pattern during the conflict is to stay very calm, avoid becoming emotional, listen to everything she has to say, even when she interrupts me, and always make sure that the last thing I say to her is something loving and appreciative.
I've noticed that every time I do this, she becomes even more angry and agitated, often goes to bed angry, but when she wakes up the next day, she will always understand my point better than the day before and apologize for being so difficult.
Now, the thing is, it's gotten to the point where I know that staying calm, loving, and accepting will net me a better end result than if I were to let go and try to force my point across. And I am aware now that I am accepting her anger, AND controlling this anger in an almost perfect way by accepting it without resistance and letting it extinguish itself. So I often feel, during these interchanges, as if I am very polarized towards BOTH STS and STO. I feel a sense of sadness and love because I am accepting these emotions unconditionally, and this does hurt, but then there is another part of me, like the emperor from Star Wars, who knows exactly what he's doing and is, like, sitting there, saying, "Yes, YES - let the anger FLOW through you. Ha ha ha ha ha."
So my question is, am I right in guessing that, even in this density, the polarities start to look/feel more similar the farther you get? I remember Ra mentioning that the positively polarized entity has an easier time jumping to polarized negative, and vice versa, because their degree of polarization, not the direction, is the dominant commonality. I had always assumed this only applied to fourth and above.
Thank you!
This came to me last night in the shower. I was having an argument with my wife, which is a rarity, but it happens.
I realized that my pattern during the conflict is to stay very calm, avoid becoming emotional, listen to everything she has to say, even when she interrupts me, and always make sure that the last thing I say to her is something loving and appreciative.
I've noticed that every time I do this, she becomes even more angry and agitated, often goes to bed angry, but when she wakes up the next day, she will always understand my point better than the day before and apologize for being so difficult.
Now, the thing is, it's gotten to the point where I know that staying calm, loving, and accepting will net me a better end result than if I were to let go and try to force my point across. And I am aware now that I am accepting her anger, AND controlling this anger in an almost perfect way by accepting it without resistance and letting it extinguish itself. So I often feel, during these interchanges, as if I am very polarized towards BOTH STS and STO. I feel a sense of sadness and love because I am accepting these emotions unconditionally, and this does hurt, but then there is another part of me, like the emperor from Star Wars, who knows exactly what he's doing and is, like, sitting there, saying, "Yes, YES - let the anger FLOW through you. Ha ha ha ha ha."
So my question is, am I right in guessing that, even in this density, the polarities start to look/feel more similar the farther you get? I remember Ra mentioning that the positively polarized entity has an easier time jumping to polarized negative, and vice versa, because their degree of polarization, not the direction, is the dominant commonality. I had always assumed this only applied to fourth and above.
Thank you!