BDSM and soul

[GentleReckoning]

My investigations into BDSM have been moving apace. All from afar (un?)fortunately....

It is totally negative sex. And by totally negative, I mean completely attachment and control based. This is of course, because as the divine masculine and feminine are taboo (and have been in western culture for a very long time) causing repression of the actually divine aspects of love and sex. And totally negative is of course reality as robot. Beep boop. Press button: Ejaculate. Yay. Happy chemicals.

The thing that solidified this for me was that I was hanging out with some new college students at a DnD session. One of the guys there had a girl sitting on his lap. She was attractive enough to be distracting. Anyway, as the night went on, I found she had desire for me. This felt like being lashed with love backed by hate.

So the spectrum from love to want to desire to need to hate. (I was assisted by some guides in the moment to be able to perceive this, as I am usually unable to perceive the finer energies of a simple look)

As attachment grows, the potential for the negative grows as well. However, if you push away attachment so as not to be afflicted by the 'dark side', then nihilism grows as the soul does not get the strength of lesson that it 'ordered'. It causes disconnection from the lessons intended.

[AnthroHeart]

What do you feel about Tantra or Tantric Sex? I don't know anything about it really.

[GentleReckoning]

It's the other end of the spectrum. Greater in every way. BDSM is basically punishment for being completely unauthentic in regards to life. (so physical bodies and soul's present, but massively disconnected from the experience due to distortion)

With Tantric sex, you can literally perceive the energy centers opening/flowering one by one as you move into one another. Any attachment to this or that breaks the connection, and it must be reformed. Most people are so asleep that they have learned... ah ....interesting relating patterns. Attachment to ejaculation being the primary disconnection. Outcome based vs Being in the moment.

[AnthroHeart]

It's the other end of the spectrum. Greater in every way. BDSM is basically punishment for being completely unauthentic in regards to life. (so physical bodies and soul's present, but massively disconnected from the experience due to distortion)

With Tantric sex, you can literally perceive the energy centers opening/flowering one by one as you move into one another. Any attachment to this or that breaks the connection, and it must be reformed. Most people are so asleep that they have learned... ah ....interesting relating patterns. Attachment to ejaculation being the primary disconnection. Outcome based vs Being in the moment.

It's harder for me to orgasm now since I moved the sexual chakra energy up to my heart. So when I see porn or something I tend to love and appreciate it for what it is, rather than getting aroused like I did before.
Though sometimes I still do.

[GentleReckoning]

Same. Whenever I move, they crop up again, and after I have refined my relationship with the people in my new space, they leave. So I'm clean enough that it's just in relation to others that I experience sexual arousal. On my own I have no need to ejaculate. Dunno what that means except that I don't need relatively meaningless release.