09-06-2017, 10:08 AM
Yes, Nau7ik, they get angry! Or even rage. It is called narcissistic rage.
I think trying to keep up the facade of the false persona requires crazy amounts of energy.
That alone shows you under what pressure those people are constantly.
Should someone threaten that careful construct they erupt in violent outbursts.
I am glad I was finally able to understand what goes on because I really did not get their behavior for years.
One of those females I mentioned is married to my brother.
He had to give up all independent thought with the marriage. She does not like our family?
No problem!
She brought him so far that he actually stopped seeing his parents and siblings for years. He is not allowed to disagree with anything she says or else she goes into a rage.
And still they present themselves as a match made in heaven.
My brother is maybe some sort of co-narcissist (is that a word?) ( <- I am thinking of codependence like with alcoholics etc)
because one is not allowed to say anything against his wife or else he will go into (co-narcissistic) rage.
Or maybe Stockholm syndrome, I dunno. She successfully hijacked him and he fell in love with the oppressor.
It is weird when he goes into his rage because it is as if some script is being played out and he has to follow it, sort of automatic, it feels very strange to me.
The other day when it happened I refused to play along. He was spouting his usual BS, that I did not like his wife and had said nasty things about her in the past and he did not like me for that blablabla.
And I simply said “ok, it is ok, just leave it be, you are right” or something like that and did not defend myself.
His script did not get fuel anymore and he stopped. We talked about something else.
And after a while he actually apologized to me! Which I don’t think has happened before.
I think trying to keep up the facade of the false persona requires crazy amounts of energy.
That alone shows you under what pressure those people are constantly.
Should someone threaten that careful construct they erupt in violent outbursts.
I am glad I was finally able to understand what goes on because I really did not get their behavior for years.
One of those females I mentioned is married to my brother.
He had to give up all independent thought with the marriage. She does not like our family?
No problem!
She brought him so far that he actually stopped seeing his parents and siblings for years. He is not allowed to disagree with anything she says or else she goes into a rage.
And still they present themselves as a match made in heaven.
My brother is maybe some sort of co-narcissist (is that a word?) ( <- I am thinking of codependence like with alcoholics etc)
because one is not allowed to say anything against his wife or else he will go into (co-narcissistic) rage.
Or maybe Stockholm syndrome, I dunno. She successfully hijacked him and he fell in love with the oppressor.
It is weird when he goes into his rage because it is as if some script is being played out and he has to follow it, sort of automatic, it feels very strange to me.
The other day when it happened I refused to play along. He was spouting his usual BS, that I did not like his wife and had said nasty things about her in the past and he did not like me for that blablabla.
And I simply said “ok, it is ok, just leave it be, you are right” or something like that and did not defend myself.
His script did not get fuel anymore and he stopped. We talked about something else.
And after a while he actually apologized to me! Which I don’t think has happened before.