This is a forum of individuals...

[isis]

(04-03-2015, 04:57 PM)Gemini Wolf Wrote:  What is moderated status? Does it mean that they watch you more closely?

It means your posts don't go thru til they approve them.

[Adonai One]

I will comply with any requests as far as I can continue my work in this 2nd/3rd dimensional outerplane subplane so that I may raise it to true green vibration.

[Billy]

I am terrible with conflict as I tend to just run away or ignore it.  Weakness on my behalf I suppose.  It's almost as if I can take it but not dish it out.  Also, can't you be both nice and honest?  Why one over the other?

[Adonai One]

Being "nice" is taking on catalytic suppressions of general society; It means taking on the dialect of a slave and paying tribute to your rulers. I am not a slave; I recognize no rulers above me.

[Minyatur]

(04-04-2015, 03:57 PM)Adonai One Wrote:  Being "nice" is taking on catalytic suppressions of general society; It means taking on the dialect of a slave and paying tribute to your rulers. I am not a slave; I recognize no rulers above me.

Of course you are the Adonai One are you not? You are the master.

[Sabou]

(04-04-2015, 03:57 PM)Adonai One Wrote:  Being "nice" is taking on catalytic suppressions of general society; It means taking on the dialect of a slave and paying tribute to your rulers. I am not a slave; I recognize no rulers above me.

maybe sincere, genuine are better words than "nice". 

[third-density-being]

(04-05-2015, 11:54 AM)Sabou Wrote:  maybe sincere, genuine are better words than "nice".

This is of course label-ism matter and its understanding, but "sincere" and "genuine" are not always an equivalent of label “nice”. Mainly because “being nice” includes taking into account feelings of Other-Self, while “being sincere/genuine” may lack this component.

I also prefer to “be nice”, but sometimes it is connected with not-expressing everything / offering incomplete feedback – and through that withholding the Catalyst from Other-Self.

But I think each of Us possess common sense and can consciously choose weather offering of the “full catalyst” is proper/necessary at any given time / in any given situation or not.


All I have Best in me for You

[Sabou]

(04-05-2015, 12:27 PM)third-density-being Wrote:  

(04-05-2015, 11:54 AM)Sabou Wrote:  maybe sincere, genuine are better words than "nice".

This is of course label-ism matter and its understanding, but "sincere" and "genuine" are not always an equivalent of label “nice”. Mainly because “being nice” includes taking into account feelings of Other-Self, while “being sincere/genuine” may lack this component.

I also prefer to “be nice”, but sometimes it is connected with not-expressing everything / offering incomplete feedback – and through that withholding the Catalyst from Other-Self.

But I think each of Us possess common sense and can consciously choose weather offering of the “full catalyst” is proper/necessary at any given time / in any given situation or not.


All I have Best in me for You

Yes, 

Thank you for helping make clear what i was thinking. I agree, they are not equivalent terms, and i do agree with Adonai that being "nice" can become a problem when there is suppression involved, and like you said as well. Especially since i can relate to this. Sometimes being nice is my genuine self and sometimes it is not, though in situations where i am uncomfortable or am involved in what people are thinking of me i tend to be overly nice.  
 

[Diana]

(04-04-2015, 03:57 PM)Adonai One Wrote:  Being "nice" is taking on catalytic suppressions of general society; It means taking on the dialect of a slave and paying tribute to your rulers. I am not a slave; I recognize no rulers above me.

I agree for the most part. But it is a conflict for me though. My natural tendency is to be direct and blunt and rawly honest. This feels the best. But then this often closes communication and becomes one-sided—me just expressing. For interaction to take place, just expressing doesn't seem to cut it. I don't try to be "nice," but I try to be kind (I don't succeed well most of the time). I have noticed this particularly when I have critiqued manuscripts. The feedback must be positive (kind but truthful) in order to have any value; and I agree to do it as a service to others so I want it to have value to them.

[Billy]

(04-06-2015, 01:47 AM)Diana Wrote:  

(04-04-2015, 03:57 PM)Adonai One Wrote:  Being "nice" is taking on catalytic suppressions of general society; It means taking on the dialect of a slave and paying tribute to your rulers. I am not a slave; I recognize no rulers above me.

I agree for the most part. But it is a conflict for me though. My natural tendency is to be direct and blunt and rawly honest. This feels the best. But then this often closes communication and becomes one-sided—me just expressing. For interaction to take place, just expressing doesn't seem to cut it. I don't try to be "nice," but I try to be kind (I don't succeed well most of the time). I have noticed this particularly when I have critiqued manuscripts. The feedback must be positive (kind but truthful) in order to have any value; and I agree to do it as a service to others so I want it to have value to them.

I find it really hard to do this.  If I were to be totally honest even half of the time, the amount of conflict it would create would be too much for me.  It's not so much that I am overly nice or that I lie, it is more that I will either say nothing or only speak partial truth.  It's hard also, because I am not even sure for the most part if my opinions, criticisms and my thoughts are correct or have any real value, and to start something over a mistake would be best avoided.  Regardless of how kindly some things are said, people will still get hurt sometimes.  But I suppose it is sometimes necessary to call people out on their behaviors.  Communication is a pain.  

I am reminded of this:

Quote:In the case of words that the Tathagata knows to be factual, true, beneficial, but unendearing & disagreeable to others, he has a sense of the proper time for saying them.

[Blunt Force]

I do not like a w ord individuality. It can be separated from personality, be put out. Let's catylyze infinitely.