04-18-2012, 07:17 AM
Having this discussion with my wife I would like to hear opinions on the matter.
My wife being catholic believes that there should be an opportunity for the 'loved ones left behind' to be able to expect something of the dying person with regards to enabling them to grieve the body once they leave it.
I had suggested that it is selfish for us to impose our grieving processes upon one who is dealing with the end of their life, and that such burdens of worrying what our loved ones will do after we leave should not be imposed upon our last moments of life.
The last thing a person should have to worry about in the dying process is how their loved ones are going to grieve their loss.
Financial security aside, what do you think about obligation to allow for and accommodate how your loved ones want to grieve for you when you leave this body?
For example, if you want to be cremated, but they want your body to be displayed for grieving, or you do not want to fight cancer, but they do not want you to die without fighting it. Is one obligated to die based upon how their loved ones want them to go, just so they can grieve according to their own ways?
My wife being catholic believes that there should be an opportunity for the 'loved ones left behind' to be able to expect something of the dying person with regards to enabling them to grieve the body once they leave it.
I had suggested that it is selfish for us to impose our grieving processes upon one who is dealing with the end of their life, and that such burdens of worrying what our loved ones will do after we leave should not be imposed upon our last moments of life.
The last thing a person should have to worry about in the dying process is how their loved ones are going to grieve their loss.
Financial security aside, what do you think about obligation to allow for and accommodate how your loved ones want to grieve for you when you leave this body?
For example, if you want to be cremated, but they want your body to be displayed for grieving, or you do not want to fight cancer, but they do not want you to die without fighting it. Is one obligated to die based upon how their loved ones want them to go, just so they can grieve according to their own ways?