Dealing with people in love with you

[kanonathena]

I must say I quite enjoyed all the subtleties, I need to actually talk to communicate in a more physical sense. I have played games with another girl before over a span of one year, the result is a disaster. Even though we met in person only a few times, never really talked, she never admitted anything, after the event has passed she kept playing the game one-sided for years.

With the other girl, we played for almost a year, later when I choose to confront, I found she had be with another guy for a month. Knowing that there is nothing I can do I chose to leave.

I have to say this situation is almost exactly what happened to me once. As I said before there was another sadistic element to it. But my emotional state at the time, and your description here are very very similar.

During this period I picked up a book called 'the sociopath next door' by Martha Stout, very good book, I got a very strong right ear ringing (the strongest I have ever had in the right ear.)

I feel like there's more I should be able to offer.

I agree with you, best cure might be to open up as quickly as possible, this can be done through immersing myself in studying the truth, especially how we are all one, all is well, so forgive and dedicate to service.

[Horuseus]

Can you please expand on this concept of energy cords,

This article may help clarify somewhat;

• Energy Cords
  
  "Cords" and the process of “cording" are an interesting energy phenomena. There are some cords that serve you and are helpful to your spiritual growth. Your grounding cord is an example of a supportive cord. There is also a cord that provides a vital link between you as localized consciousness, in your body, and Source; we call it the Source cord. Parents of young children will support them with a cord for the first few years of their lives; if it goes on any longer both beings are essentially limiting each other's freedom. The cord needs to be separated by about age three or four. In our culture, this is a bit of an issue because often the parent and/or the child is unwilling to let go. There are, for example, many 40-year old men walking around still corded to their mothers.
  
  There are also cords that do not serve you, and are not only unnecessary, but also limiting. You can be corded to your mother or your father or to any other relationship. The cord can be connected to anybody. You can cord people, or people can cord you. Lovers, for example, will often connect cords to each other. The cords can be plugged into any one of the different chakras, or any part of the body. It is important to understand, however, that these cords are foreign energy in an individual's space and the cords do not support autonomy and freedom as a spiritual being. They are limiting to the person's freedom, and can damage the energy system.
  
  Cords can be created or severed at any time. Remember that cording goes both ways between individuals. No one can cord you without your permission on some level, this is usually on an unconscious level. You have to take responsibility for your side of the connection, especially if you want to make a separation. As a powerful spiritual being you can make the choice to "pull the plug" and disconnect cords. You do not need permission from the person on the other end. When you separate those cords, you will find it is like hanging up the phone with someone. A cord is like an open phone line, even if it is with a person you have not interacted with for years. Recognize your own cords. Choosing to unplug and heal them is an important step on your spiritual path.
  
  One person can cord another person, or a being out-of-body can cord a being-in-body. A being out-of-body can also cord another being out-of-body. When someone cords someone else there is usually a game of some type going on. Lovers who cord one another are a good example. They were programmed to believe that cording is what love is. Sometimes people will cord other people to get information, to access their energy, or to control them. There is usually a lot of cording going on in families.
  
  The "ownership game" is largely about cording. A person will cord another person's seventh chakra and feed them messages, a bit at a time, while controlling them on a core level. The cord goes both ways and it is just as limiting for the cordee as the corder - it keeps both sides dependent.
  
  You can have a deeper and more respectful relationship with another if you are not cording each other. Unplugging the cords in a relationship is an evolution of the relationship and the spiritual beings.
  
  http://lsd.lightwork.ca/content/view/articles/333/77/

Most of the above usually occurs on an unconscious level. 'Fantasizing' about another will cord you to them if not careful. This is usually why alot of 'Guilt' can manifest.

and creating a shield "whilst programming a parameter to filtering such thoughts or energy projections?"

What exactly does this entail or mean?

Essentially a thoughtform in the form of a shield to filter incoming 'traffic'. This is usually done by visualization. Pickle made a good tutorial here;

http://www.bring4th.org/forums/showthread.php?tid=4836

[kanonathena]

What is the difference between 1. pushing myself to open up to people; 2.waiting until I see all as one and start talking?