07-29-2017, 05:52 AM
(This post was last modified: 07-29-2017, 06:11 AM by Infinite Unity.)
(07-28-2017, 05:34 PM)IndigoGeminiWolf Wrote: I have to wait for the banks to send checks and stuff before I can keep 50% of my own money. I have to send in a form when I have a check for the bank account. That'll be at least 10-14 days just for the checks, and then another 2 weeks at least for the company to update the payroll info. As soon as I send in that form, I'll let my mom know. I don't want to do it before in case she manipulates me out of it.
If it were me, it wouldn't be so much about the money,as it could potentially be the beginning of a more balanced relationship. Were hopefully, eventually things like money are not an issue, and both entities can more fully come to appreciate each other, and what the other deserves for there work. And what they need to survive/live. I understand how you could be frustrated with her, however there has probably been more then one occasion where you thought/felt that things weren't exactly fair/even. Between you two, especially financially, and you let it go by. I don't think she is trying to be outright malicious towards you, and often times controlling people. Only are reacting/doing what they think is right. Even if they are completely wrong. Though they develop these traits or ways of acting towards you, were you are incapable, and they should just have the reins. Find confidence within yourself. Think things through with this, use your intuition to find the balanced complete view. In my opinion one of the most important aspects in all this, is how you approach her when parlaying with her, about this matter.
I would not approach her with anger, or in a threatening manner. Really think about how/why she feels this way, and done these things. Maybe she is afraid for her future financially. Which surely does not excuse her actions/choices. But rather a way for you to understand, and connect to her. In my opinion that is what this will take. A position where you truly understand how she feels, have forgiven her. Though you also need for your health, and financial security, what is due to you for your input in the jobs, that you two do. Explain to her that she has received however many it is months, of these checks. That you don't hold it against her, but understand her position, and how she needed the money. Then you explain that this is your only source of money, and your savings has nothing to do with these jobs, and from here on out they will be even. You have seen to it. Give her no ultimatum beyond that. See where she goes, her reaction. Let her decide if she will be sharing/accepting/understanding or will she deny/make excuses/and all the things in the past. Be confident. yet not arrogant. You are not dominating, you are trying to balance and harmonize. This is my little opinion brother. Take what you will, and I wish you both the best.