A theory about STS I keep running across

[turtledude23]

It seems difficult to draw the line between STO and STS if the line is acceptance and control, because to accept anything you need to control the part of you which doesn't want to accept it, and to control anything you need to accept the part of you which wants to control. If one has a mental illness like depression do they accept it as it is to polarize towards STO? Would seeking treatment be control? One successful form of treatment is called Cognitive Behavioural Therapy and its all about controlling the mind, no acceptance involved. If someone's natural tendency is to be unempathetic, and empathy is key to STO, then would accepting that lack of empathy rather than trying to change it be STO or STS polarizing?

If we don't even know if our actions or intentions are truly STO or STS it may at times be better to do something you believe to be STS because at least it will polarize you in a direction, in some situations acceptance just leads to stagnation in polarity or harm to yourself. When I do something I believe is STS I feel a surge of confidence which can overcome even my strongest pains, where as blind acceptance causes me to feel hopeless.