(01-12-2010, 04:20 AM)transiten Wrote: From the perspective of the Law of One how would you guys percieve the problems i have with the instructions for making this donation?
I have no idea what your specific lessons are in this case. I could only guess!
What I can do is share how I personally tend to interpret such challenges.
I know some people who take any challenge as a 'sign from God' that they aren't supposed to do that particular thing. For example, if they are on their way to a job interview and have a flat tire, they interpret that to mean they aren't 'supposed' to take that particular job...If they're starting a new diet and the cat knocks down their salad bowl and the salad spills on the floor, then God must not want them to eat salads...you get the idea.
So the question is: Is the obstacle a 'sign' that we aren't supposed to do something, or is it just an obstacle to overcome, thereby strengthening our resolve?
I tend to think the latter, but that's just me and how I view life. Encountering obstacles does indeed cause us to pause and reflect upon what we really want to do in this case. Obstacles help us get clear on our intentions, as well as bring to the surface any unresolved issues pertaining to this new action.
We know from the Law of One that obstacles are just catalyst. It's up to us as to what we do with that catalyst.
(01-12-2010, 04:20 AM)transiten Wrote: Do i have a subconscious resistance to making it? Or am i using this as a means of contact since i feel cut off from many of my recent friends who do not even call to see how i am doing after my surgery.
Those are some very astute insights, and the very fact that they came to your mind would indicate that they probably are related to the obstacles. Since we know that the outer world is a reflection, then I would say yes, clearly there is some resistance there. But, the question is: Why is there resistance?
Just the fact that there is resistance doesn't necessarily mean that it's a sign you 'shouldn't' do it, at least not in my worldview. Rather, I would see the resistance as something to look at and resolve. There is no should or shouldn't...They are all just choices, and we always have the power to choose. Some choices will trigger certain challenges, while other choices trigger different challenges. We have an opportunity to learn something either way, regardless of which choice we make.
Some years back, my best friend was torn between 2 lovers, and they were both named Hal! The 2 Hal's had drastically different personalities, and she was having difficulty deciding whom she wanted to be with. I told her that if she chose Hal #1, then she would have an opportunity to have more structure in her life; whereas, if she chose Hal #2, she would have an opportunity to be more spontaneous. It was her choice. It's all good.
What I would suggest is for you to consider the possibility that you can have friends without a lot of obstacles. You don't need to create obstacles in order to reach out and connect with your new friends on this forum. Connections can be born from harmony, not only out of adversity.
(01-12-2010, 04:20 AM)transiten Wrote: I have stated my point and put boundaries for myself that i think are healthy and it seems they can not take any criticism.
Criticism can be healthy if the person asks for your honest assessment/opinion, but it can be perceived as hurtful and destructive if the person hasn't asked for it. Clear, open communication is advanced stuff - 5th chakra work! Sometimes the challenge is to learn when it's appropriate to be totally open and honest, and when it's appropriate to just offer little seeds of thought in a tactful, loving way...or even zip our lips completely until the person seems to want our opinion. In the meantime, we can view the person as a mirror and work on those issues that have pushed our buttons...for, as you know from astrology, if they push our buttons, then the issues are in ourselves, to some degree, though maybe in a suppressed form.
(01-12-2010, 04:20 AM)transiten Wrote: Now it seems like i am the one who must reconnect otherwise the relationship will fade away. I am always the first to forgive and continue as nothing happened but perhaps this is a new stage in my development, the challenge of not falling back into co-dependency.
I can definitely relate to your dilemma! I've experienced a similar situation, in which my task was to discern whether to reconnect with the person or just let the relationship fall away. In some cases, I ended up realizing that I had been too harsh, so I felt it was appropriate to seek out the person and apologize...even though I still felt there was some truth to what I had told them, I realized that it wasn't really my place to do so and my action had ended up being hurtful. In those cases, a new level of trust and harmony ensued after I cleared the air.
In other cases, even after I had humbly and sincerely apologized for my own part (which I think is always important to do first), the person still did not respond, and I realized that continuation of that relationship was draining, because the person seemed to be stuck in the old dynamic that I had resolved and released in myself. In those cases, I let the connection die, and we both moved on.
What helped me in those situations was to be honest with myself, as to whether I had truly overcome those issues, or was I running away from them! Sometimes it's difficult to ascertain that...but that's ok, because we can be sure, that if we run away from some issue, our Higher Self will program it into our curriculum again, until we meet it and deal with it! Whereas, if we're done with that lesson, the dynamic will change...we'll encounter a new pattern, with new opportunities for growth.
I hope you get clarity about whether to continue those relationships!