As this thread shows, there are many different views and ideas of relationships and choosing a partner. Nothing is right or wrong. All is valid.
Plus I guess that with time our views change, and sometimes even to opposite, as it has certainly been my experience.
GreatSpirit, nice post! Thank you for sharing.
Then I felt solace reading this:
Instead of endeavours to be enlightened I changed it to endeavours to create a positive force though, a blessing to this planet and the Creator in my mind. But it wasn't that clear to me what was "wrong" until I read this post. In my last relationship we couldn't create this positive force, no matter how much we tried. So we became like a brother and sister instead. But we also acted as a healing catalyst for many of our friends who had negative experiences from the past when their parents divorced. This time they saw something beautiful and positive instead, and they literally said that watching us healed them.
And by some chance this topic was brought as a conversation topic *this night*, when I was working with a collegue with whom I have never worked with before. And she told me the exactly same story about happy divorce and staying close friends afterwards. So I shared the above story of buddhist lama with her. But what are the odds of this synchronicity? =)
Plus I guess that with time our views change, and sometimes even to opposite, as it has certainly been my experience.
GreatSpirit, nice post! Thank you for sharing.
Then I felt solace reading this:
(06-15-2012, 06:25 PM)TheEternal Wrote: I recall a story of a buddhist lamas who was married by decided to get a divorced with his wife. There is a principle called bodhicitta whereby one endeavours to be enlightened as possible. This lamas and his wife realized they were not creatring bodhicitta together and so for the best of their growths needed to part ways.
Instead of endeavours to be enlightened I changed it to endeavours to create a positive force though, a blessing to this planet and the Creator in my mind. But it wasn't that clear to me what was "wrong" until I read this post. In my last relationship we couldn't create this positive force, no matter how much we tried. So we became like a brother and sister instead. But we also acted as a healing catalyst for many of our friends who had negative experiences from the past when their parents divorced. This time they saw something beautiful and positive instead, and they literally said that watching us healed them.
And by some chance this topic was brought as a conversation topic *this night*, when I was working with a collegue with whom I have never worked with before. And she told me the exactly same story about happy divorce and staying close friends afterwards. So I shared the above story of buddhist lama with her. But what are the odds of this synchronicity? =)
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