I think the nature of your difficulties are rejection due to trying serve an entity that did not call for service. Especially after first waking up, it can be extremely difficult not to [find] the nearest slumbering entity and desperatly try to shake them awake. This pretty much always fails, and can further entrench them in their sleep. Do not feel bad about wanting to do this, it can be a struggle even for someone awakened for longer than you.
As previously mentioned above, there are other more passive ways of service to others in the mean time of waiting for more opportunities to give more direct service in (hopefully) the not-too-distant future. This service can be surprisingly effective, the most common service is simply holding your tongue in situations where you revealing information would infringe on their free will. They must ask you first. This is a service to others if you know when not and what to withhold, like for example, my opinion of 9/11 to certain people.
As previously mentioned above, there are other more passive ways of service to others in the mean time of waiting for more opportunities to give more direct service in (hopefully) the not-too-distant future. This service can be surprisingly effective, the most common service is simply holding your tongue in situations where you revealing information would infringe on their free will. They must ask you first. This is a service to others if you know when not and what to withhold, like for example, my opinion of 9/11 to certain people.