forgiveness, what does it really mean

[Charles]

Each act of forgiving is unique. Finding the motivation behind the "why" can be very difficult, but believing that all difficulties are presented to us as learning/soul growth opportunities, does help.

Things are accelerating in this lifetime, opportunities for growth are increasing, because the harvest is near.

The motivation behind the "why" is often a soul contract agreed upon before incarnation. It's fascinating in a way, because our learning and growing involves recognizing our obvious unity as souls ……… and this recognition is often spurred by having to experience its opposite.

The experience of self love (which is the same as love for others), often seems to require some insult to self, and some degradation to pull ourselves out of. One thing to realize is that while we should not judge others, they too do not have the right to judge us. We are, what We Believe We Are, and others opinions only reflect their own mirror.

I was betrayed by my mother, creating in my life a 5 year hibernation of PTSD. The difficult growth of that time has finally become appreciated. Obese, terrified, alone, depressed, suddenly, out of the blue, it dawned on me …… that I am lovable ! ! !
I woke up ! And suddenly there was nothing to forgive my mother for. These days I bless and thank her.

We all need stop thinking "why me?" and start thinking "what can I learn from this?"

Then, the most selfish act (and it is a very self-healing selfish act) of forgiving becomes common sense. Forgiving erases karma, and lifts heavy weights from our shoulders. Forgiving clears minds and offers freedom. You have every right and reason to love yourself, and that self love should help you to forgive self and others. Even if the lesson itself is just to learn to forgive.

A soul knows what growth is needed. Some souls may choose to be born black, female, gay, blind, and midget with body odor. Some souls may instead choose illness, or retardation, or "accidents." All given as loving opportunities.

Maybe you don't understand the "why," but please understand that you have nothing to "blame" yourself for. We live in a Light and Loving Universe.

And also remember, that when you forgive someone, you don't need to tell them that they are forgiven. It really is a delightfully selfish and enlightening thing to do.