03-28-2012, 12:10 PM
I agree with so much that has been said here. I have made great strides by endeavoring to remove emotional charge. Two examples that work for me:
1) Excitement: Something good happens to me, say, I get a contract from an agent for one of my books. The tendency is to get very excited and go overboard emotionally. But this is because I am thinking about the whole scenario that might unfold: selling it to a publisher, and then, getting people to actually read it. I am attached to the outcome.
What I do is to say, okay, this is a great first step. Take it one step at a time. It will all work out the way it is meant to. In this way I still feel joyful, but not bonkers thinking I already have a best-seller.
This does not mean one shouldn't feel joy. But joy would not be attached to an outcome.
2) An unwanted task: If I am obligated to do something that I find irritating or challenging, I remind myself that I am "being of service." Saying and thinking this immediately detaches me from the task, and I am able to feel good about it.
1) Excitement: Something good happens to me, say, I get a contract from an agent for one of my books. The tendency is to get very excited and go overboard emotionally. But this is because I am thinking about the whole scenario that might unfold: selling it to a publisher, and then, getting people to actually read it. I am attached to the outcome.
What I do is to say, okay, this is a great first step. Take it one step at a time. It will all work out the way it is meant to. In this way I still feel joyful, but not bonkers thinking I already have a best-seller.
This does not mean one shouldn't feel joy. But joy would not be attached to an outcome.
2) An unwanted task: If I am obligated to do something that I find irritating or challenging, I remind myself that I am "being of service." Saying and thinking this immediately detaches me from the task, and I am able to feel good about it.
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