The Quest for a Soulmate

[Monica]

you can have criteria. the thing is you gotta go about it the right way.

Well I'm not saying it's 'wrong' to have a wish list of desired attributes. Some things really do need to be on the criteria list, like on a spiritual path for example. but that's a pretty loose generalization. Wishing for someone who doesn't smoke and is on a spiritual path is some very loose criteria, and acceptable, in my opinion. But wishing for someone of a specific race, color of hair, height, weight, etc. are all rather superficial, in my opinion, and it's those superficial kinds of criteria that can get in the way.

I happen to like long hair on guys. You know, the rock star look. Well instead I got someone with the leather-jacket biker look, with short hair. (though he has had long hair before.) He thought he'd get an Asian martial artist woman. Instead he got me, a short blonde who was totally sedentary at the time. Our interests and personalities were drastically different!

But guess what? We turned to to be perfect for each other! Sometimes when we let go of attachments to what we think we want, we get something better!