The Quest for a Soulmate

[Monica]

Like, when you wanted to have fun on a vacation, did you hope the perfect vacation would manifest and you would say "I can't believe this vacation even existed? Or did you set out on a trip and say "I'm going to make the vacation the best ever!". You're in the driver's seat, me lady.

A momentous occasion! I actually agree with this part!

I had a boyfriend who had his 'perfect mate' all figured out: She would be gorgeous of course, have red hair, like hard rock music, concerts and tennis, be articulate and intelligent, a good cook, smart but not smarter than him of course, always cheerful, etc.

He never found her. Last I heard, he's pushing 60 and still lonely.

Having criteria doesn't work. The 'perfect mate' is the one who will stimulate the most spiritual growth and with whom one can have a fulfilling life.

So the only criteria to have is that.

NOT saying you have criteria, Ankh. I don't know if you do or not. Just sharing. I agree with Monkey about making the choice to find fulfillment and happiness with whatever the Universe brings to you. THEN you will find that 'perfect mate' I think.