02-26-2012, 12:25 PM
I would recommend the Aaron/Q'uo Dialogues for an excellent and thorough discussion on ways to handle fear. In a nutshell: acceptance is the key.
Are we programmed to fight fear? To wage an eternal war against it? If so- where does this come from and what has been the outcome? Can fear be extinguished or eradicated? Would this even be desirable?
Perhaps surprisingly- the answer offered is no. Fear is a natural response which results from incarnation into these physical and emotional bodies. It will not go away so long as we have these. Being "fearless" is not the objective, nor is "banishing" those who wield fear as a weapon a very useful outcome.
According to Aaron and Q'uo, the objective is to change our relationship to fear. To accept it as a part of what is so. To be able to say to ourselves: I know you are scared. It's OK. I love you despite your apparent imperfections.
Then, we are in a place to forgive ourselves for our fears. After all, aren't fears what keep us from manifesting our brilliant light? Are we perhaps angry and judgmental with ourselves for "failing" to live up to what we know is possible for ourselves? We can let this go- we were never meant to manifest that kind of perfection on the physical plane.
I observe within myself a fear of joy. It is quite an absurd scenario, I can admit. The fear goes something like this: If you allow yourself to feel great joy, something very "bad" or sorrowful will happen. It is kind of like this sense of "waiting for the other shoe to drop". This fear says- Don't enjoy yourself too much, or you may stop paying attention, and when you stop paying attention bad things happen. So I suppose in a way it comes down to trusting the universe to be looking out for me rather than attempting to do it all with my ego/mind.
A useful metaphor offered in the A/Q Dialogues on this gives the image of us living in tunnel-like caves with spider webs of fear across the entry/exit way. We put the fear there to protect us. It is there for a very good reason, though now times have changed and it is no longer necessary. But we also don't need to rip the whole web down at once. We can deconstruct it strand by strand, knowing that any portion can be recreated if we choose.
I still find myself feeling fearful about stepping out of the cave. According to my read of both channeled sources and inner guides, it is now completely safe to step out of the cave and fully be ourselves. I still have my doubts. There is a certain degree of faith, but I must acknowledge that part of myself that wants to see the "evidence". Still- in order to see the "evidence" I must first allow myself to step out of the cave and see that I am safe. I am taking this one step at a time.
Might I look back and laugh at myself for being so cautious? Probably so. But that is OK. I don't need to "get it" all at once. I used to be more fearful of "not learning my lessons" and needing to come back. Or getting myself embroiled in some sort of karma and needing to come back. But now I am starting to see that there really is only one lesson here, and that lesson is love.
Are we programmed to fight fear? To wage an eternal war against it? If so- where does this come from and what has been the outcome? Can fear be extinguished or eradicated? Would this even be desirable?
Perhaps surprisingly- the answer offered is no. Fear is a natural response which results from incarnation into these physical and emotional bodies. It will not go away so long as we have these. Being "fearless" is not the objective, nor is "banishing" those who wield fear as a weapon a very useful outcome.
According to Aaron and Q'uo, the objective is to change our relationship to fear. To accept it as a part of what is so. To be able to say to ourselves: I know you are scared. It's OK. I love you despite your apparent imperfections.
Then, we are in a place to forgive ourselves for our fears. After all, aren't fears what keep us from manifesting our brilliant light? Are we perhaps angry and judgmental with ourselves for "failing" to live up to what we know is possible for ourselves? We can let this go- we were never meant to manifest that kind of perfection on the physical plane.
I observe within myself a fear of joy. It is quite an absurd scenario, I can admit. The fear goes something like this: If you allow yourself to feel great joy, something very "bad" or sorrowful will happen. It is kind of like this sense of "waiting for the other shoe to drop". This fear says- Don't enjoy yourself too much, or you may stop paying attention, and when you stop paying attention bad things happen. So I suppose in a way it comes down to trusting the universe to be looking out for me rather than attempting to do it all with my ego/mind.
A useful metaphor offered in the A/Q Dialogues on this gives the image of us living in tunnel-like caves with spider webs of fear across the entry/exit way. We put the fear there to protect us. It is there for a very good reason, though now times have changed and it is no longer necessary. But we also don't need to rip the whole web down at once. We can deconstruct it strand by strand, knowing that any portion can be recreated if we choose.
I still find myself feeling fearful about stepping out of the cave. According to my read of both channeled sources and inner guides, it is now completely safe to step out of the cave and fully be ourselves. I still have my doubts. There is a certain degree of faith, but I must acknowledge that part of myself that wants to see the "evidence". Still- in order to see the "evidence" I must first allow myself to step out of the cave and see that I am safe. I am taking this one step at a time.
Might I look back and laugh at myself for being so cautious? Probably so. But that is OK. I don't need to "get it" all at once. I used to be more fearful of "not learning my lessons" and needing to come back. Or getting myself embroiled in some sort of karma and needing to come back. But now I am starting to see that there really is only one lesson here, and that lesson is love.
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