11-29-2009, 05:08 AM
Hello everyone.. thank you so much for your advice!
Peregrinus: In my situation, it looks like I wish to stand in the manure! A bit smelly, hmm
Lorna: Your post is appreciated, and yes, if you can see a person really suffering in an incarnation/personality it's a relief to see them released. In my case the person is lively and quite young though!
As for now, I will take the 'avoid' approach you describe since I clearly can't reach her
Bring4th_Monica: Your lengthy posts are always appreciated, it feels like you write directly from your heart. And your soul is very beautiful.
You speak of mirrors, that all people are a mirror of your own self, and I believe this is a most vital truth to both understand and to live by. If all lived by it, and worked upon themselves according to the catalyst provided, this would truly be the fine, strong, moment of inspiration the planet would need to polarize towards harmony. Everything would zooooom to the heavens.
It's almost impossible for me to speculate why my friend reacts as she chooses, since she is shut. Analyzing other people's feelings/life is a work of futility in any case, for none knows the self better than the actual self, and no other-self, in this existence. So I do not wish to analyze her, but love her despite knowing. This poses a hard-learned lesson to my little rational mind which loves cause and effect and justifications.
I've been thinking of a quote these last days
"If you love all you need not think about right or wrong."
This also applies to being judgmental, for in you are in deeming things right and wrong. And by that idea I need not know my friend reacts as she chooses, but I can still love her for the unique and beautiful soul she is.
This also means you can be yourself always, without analyzing or manipulating anything.
Your best friend's situation may apply to mine still, where I am quite expressive by nature and do not think before I speak often. This indeed makes a great number of people uncomfortable, likely due to the suppressive aspects of them you describe.
I cannot think of any other reason, for if all knew/embraced themselves fully and accepted all others equally this would not be a problem.
This I attempt to do, and thus being my full self always, and obviously it brings complications...
I am constantly working with myself, and I will take your advice to look at myself in the mirror once more to this aspect of myself.
In the end, this is a choice of limiting myself at the 'respect' of others, or living my full self.
Either way is thick with the drama in this existence, but I'm surely leaning towards the latter. I do dislike manipulating/tricking others and myself.. how can I accept others if I can't accept myself and vice versa.
Peregrinus: In my situation, it looks like I wish to stand in the manure! A bit smelly, hmm
Lorna: Your post is appreciated, and yes, if you can see a person really suffering in an incarnation/personality it's a relief to see them released. In my case the person is lively and quite young though!
As for now, I will take the 'avoid' approach you describe since I clearly can't reach herBring4th_Monica: Your lengthy posts are always appreciated, it feels like you write directly from your heart. And your soul is very beautiful.
You speak of mirrors, that all people are a mirror of your own self, and I believe this is a most vital truth to both understand and to live by. If all lived by it, and worked upon themselves according to the catalyst provided, this would truly be the fine, strong, moment of inspiration the planet would need to polarize towards harmony. Everything would zooooom to the heavens.
It's almost impossible for me to speculate why my friend reacts as she chooses, since she is shut. Analyzing other people's feelings/life is a work of futility in any case, for none knows the self better than the actual self, and no other-self, in this existence. So I do not wish to analyze her, but love her despite knowing. This poses a hard-learned lesson to my little rational mind which loves cause and effect and justifications.
I've been thinking of a quote these last days
"If you love all you need not think about right or wrong."
This also applies to being judgmental, for in you are in deeming things right and wrong. And by that idea I need not know my friend reacts as she chooses, but I can still love her for the unique and beautiful soul she is.
This also means you can be yourself always, without analyzing or manipulating anything.
Your best friend's situation may apply to mine still, where I am quite expressive by nature and do not think before I speak often. This indeed makes a great number of people uncomfortable, likely due to the suppressive aspects of them you describe.
I cannot think of any other reason, for if all knew/embraced themselves fully and accepted all others equally this would not be a problem.
This I attempt to do, and thus being my full self always, and obviously it brings complications...
I am constantly working with myself, and I will take your advice to look at myself in the mirror once more to this aspect of myself.
In the end, this is a choice of limiting myself at the 'respect' of others, or living my full self.
Either way is thick with the drama in this existence, but I'm surely leaning towards the latter. I do dislike manipulating/tricking others and myself.. how can I accept others if I can't accept myself and vice versa.