STS: using standards of beauty to manipulate others

[Ruth]

I had a discussion this week with my daughter about the difference between external beauty and the beauty that shines out from inside someone, and which is the more important beauty to cultivate? The discussion was precipitated by our discovery that a particular family member has not been invited to a wedding because he is short, overweight and "socially unacceptable". This same fellow, however, is EXTREMELY intelligent, is an accomlished pianist/musician (or was before he had a stroke last year), has college degrees, and would do anything to help anyone!

I've always looked at the eyes, then the actions to "judge" an individual's beauty.