(12-10-2011, 06:40 PM)Cyan Wrote: The answer to being STO is to relax. But teaching a brain thats learned to do nothing but stress for 20 years to just sit and relax is hard work. Paradoxically.
I have been desperately trying to "calm down" lately as well. What has recently worked for me when I would have waves of anxiety/self-consciousness of the attention of others is just not fight it down... Just close your eyes briefly and let it crescendo into your heart like ocean surf breaking on a cliff wall. When I achieve this successfully, the feeling I get is: like my heart is fluttering in love like a cute girl just smiled at you, and then a calm warm rush like I just had a shot of whiskey or something. Which saves me from crippling my intillect in conversations with people due to self consciousness/nervousness. Your mileage may vary, just trying to be helpful. lol