Severity of Catalyst and "Fairness"

[turtledude23]

Some people have shittier lives than others. Sometimes because of internal factors within their control, sometimes because of external factors beyond their control, and sometimes because of some hard to define grey area in between. The most extreme example of catalyst I can think of is trauma induced mind control (http://secretarcana.com/hiddenknowledge/...d-control/). Either life is fair, or it isn't. If it is fair it's possible it's fair in some way beyond our comprehension, if it isn't then there isn't much we can do about it and have to make to most of our lives anyways. The only way I could see it being fair is if throughout reincarnation people have their external factors average out e.g. if they have a terrible life one time, they'll have an easier life another time. Or I suppose if a life is chosen pre-incarnatively the soul could see wisdom in having alot of shitty lives, but its hard to see that wisdom while suffering, and that would raise the question: are the free will decisions of an entity not behind the veil more important than the free will decisions of that same entity behind the veil? Or maybe it isn't hard to see wisdom if one suffers enough. I have suffered alot, but I assume many people in the world have suffered far more than I have, so I don't really know what it really entails, I do know suffering is most likely to bring about change in ones self, in either polarity, but I also know balance and moderation are important: too much suffering could bias even the most whole-heartedly STO inclined soul towards STS, insanity or suicide - I think. Your thoughts?