11-06-2011, 02:21 PM
But we can't expect someone to change, especially for our own comfort. We shouldn't expect people to conform to our own ideas of appropriate behavior.
The husband in your example may take a closer look at his actions because of his wife and find that it is not who he wishes to be. But if yelling is how he communicates, even with someone he cares about, the wife can't expect him to conform to her feelings. If the particular situation is undesirable, it's up to her to change it, not him. She can either explore ways to not be hurt by his yelling or simply leave his company. His unwillingness to change would not be representative of a lack of care for her.
The husband in your example may take a closer look at his actions because of his wife and find that it is not who he wishes to be. But if yelling is how he communicates, even with someone he cares about, the wife can't expect him to conform to her feelings. If the particular situation is undesirable, it's up to her to change it, not him. She can either explore ways to not be hurt by his yelling or simply leave his company. His unwillingness to change would not be representative of a lack of care for her.
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